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Relationship Stress / by considerateField2476
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 June 15th
...See more Hi.I need some outside perspective because I'm struggling with uncertainty. My boyfriend and I were doing well recently. On June 5, we were still having normal conversations, joking around, and he was being sweet. A few days later he became quieter, and then we had an argument on June 8. Since then, he's been mostly silent. I've sent some vulnerable messages explaining how I feel, and he has seen them but hasn't responded. What makes this difficult is that before all this happened, he had told me a lot of things he liked about me and the relationship. We had gone on dates, shared emotional moments, and I never felt like he didn't care. That's why the sudden silence is so confusing. I've been reflecting on my own behavior too. I think when I get anxious, I push for answers and reassurance. He seems more likely to withdraw when overwhelmed. Looking back, I wonder if we got stuck in a cycle where I pushed harder as he pulled away. The hardest part isn't even the possibility that he's upset. It's not knowing what's going on. If he simply said, "I need time" or "I'm hurt," I think I could handle that much better. I'm not looking for predictions about what he's thinking. I'm mostly looking for perspectives from people who have been through something similar. How did you cope with the uncertainty? Did distance and silence always mean the relationship was over, or were there situations where things were repaired later?
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