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courageousKitten1502
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Do I break up with him? What do I do?
Relationship Stress / by courageousKitten1502
Last post
 October 7th, 2025
...See more I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 2 and a half years. A little over a month ago, my brother physically assaulted my boyfriend after a verbal disagreement. My brother has since been charged with assault and battery causing serious bodily injury. Since this incident, my relationship with my boyfriend has changed dramatically. He often says he doesn’t know how we can move forward from this and worries about what others will think in the future. I used to live with him, but he took away my key, and now I only see him a few times a week on his terms. We’ve also stopped being intimate, and I feel like we’re growing apart. He’s also expressed that he doesn’t believe in marriage and sees it as just a piece of paper. I had hoped that being together might eventually change his perspective, but now I’m unsure where our relationship is headed. This situation has left me feeling emotionally drained, anxious, and uncertain about the future of our relationship and how to cope with everything that’s happened. What do you think I should do?
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Boyfriend wants space after serious family conflict
Relationship Stress / by courageousKitten1502
Last post
 September 22nd, 2025
...See more Hi everyone, I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and recently something happened that has shaken our relationship. About 3 weeks ago, my brother attacked my boyfriend and he was seriously injured. My brother has since been charged with assault and battery, and it’s now a legal matter. Since then, my boyfriend has asked for space, and I moved out of his home at his request. He’s told me he’s unsure how to move forward with me, is questioning our relationship, and even said he doesn’t know if marriage will ever be in the cards because of what happened. On top of that, his family won’t speak to me right now. I want to be clear — I’m not speaking with my brother at all after what happened. My focus is only on my relationship, but I’m really struggling being away from my boyfriend. We used to live together and had daily routines that made me feel close and connected to him, and now I feel lost without that. I want to move back in, but I also don’t want to push him further away or disrespect his need for space. I love him deeply and want to save our relationship, but I’m not sure what the right steps are. Do I wait and give him all the space he’s asking for? Should I try to show him in some way that I’m committed to us? How do I navigate this while also respecting his healing process and the seriousness of what happened? Any advice or perspective would mean a lot.
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Alcohol co dependency
Alcohol & Drug Addiction Support / by courageousKitten1502
Last post
 September 16th, 2025
...See more Hi, I know I need to stop drinking. I down a bottle of wine every night. I drink to numb the pain, but ends up making me more emotional & then I do stupid, dumb things out of emotions. Does anyone deal with this? Also- what do you find as your night time routine to avoid alcohol as a coping mechanism?
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Anxiety After Family Violence and Relationship Strain
Relationship Stress / by courageousKitten1502
Last post
 September 5th, 2025
...See more “My brother physically and brutally assaulted my boyfriend, which has left me devastated and torn between my family and my relationship. My boyfriend has pressed charges, and my brother is now facing serious legal consequences. Because of this, my boyfriend’s family dislikes me, and my own relationship feels damaged—he’s questioning how we move forward. We built a life together and live with each other, which makes this even more painful and complicated. Now, my boyfriend says he needs space and time to reflect because he doesn’t know how to process everything either. I feel heartbroken, anxious, and lost, not knowing how to cope with the betrayal from my brother, the tension with both families, and the uncertainty in my relationship. I need advice on how to process this trauma, manage my anxiety, and find a healthy way forward for myself, regardless of what happens with my relationship.”
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Need advice- traumatic event with bf & family
General Support / by courageousKitten1502
Last post
 September 5th, 2025
...See more My brother attacked my boyfriend over words and my boyfriend pressed charges which I completely agree with. I was also physically there and witnessed the whole thing. The charges are serious and are A&B with serious bodily injuries. I am in shock and so is my bf. I am having so much anxiety and anxious thoughts. I took the week off of work. I cannot stop thinking about how my relationship is ruined with my long term bf. I am slowly moving my stuff out of his house. He said he needs time to reflect on everything now that there is a legal case. I am disgusted with my brother. I don’t know what to do with myself. I am sitting down by myself just thinking about everything and my life. I’m physically getting sick as well. I cannot stop shaking and my heart cannot stop pounding. It’s been 3 days now and I’ve never had so much anxiety and anxiety/ panic attacks. My whole life is ruined. How can my bf & I ever get through this ordeal? My bf is my home and safe place. The fact I cannot come home like usual and have our normal relationship. I don’t know what to do. I’m mentally not ok
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Traumatic event and anxiety anxious with bf
Relationship Stress / by courageousKitten1502
Last post
 September 5th, 2025
...See more My brother attacked my boyfriend over words and my boyfriend pressed charges which I completely agree with. I was also physically there and witnessed the whole thing. The charges are serious and are A&B with serious bodily injuries. I am in shock and so is my bf. I am having so much anxiety and anxious thoughts. I took the week off of work. I cannot stop thinking about how my relationship is ruined with my long term bf. I am slowly moving my stuff out of his house. He said he needs time to reflect on everything now that there is a legal case. I am disgusted with my brother. I don’t know what to do with myself. I am sitting down by myself just thinking about everything and my life. I’m physically getting sick as well. I cannot stop shaking and my heart cannot stop pounding. It’s been 3 days now and I’ve never had so much anxiety and anxiety/ panic attacks. My whole life is ruined. How can my bf & I ever get through this ordeal? My bf is my home and safe place. The fact I cannot come home like usual and have our normal relationship. I don’t know what to do. I’m mentally not ok.
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Anxiety and physical symptoms of bf situation
Anxiety Support / by courageousKitten1502
Last post
 September 4th, 2025
...See more My brother attacked my boyfriend over words and my boyfriend pressed charges which I completely agree with. I was also physically there and witnessed the whole thing. The charges are serious and are A&B with serious bodily injuries. I am in shock and so is my bf. I am having so much anxiety and anxious thoughts. I took the week off of work. I cannot stop thinking about how my relationship is ruined with my long term bf. I am slowly moving my stuff out of his house. He said he needs time to reflect on everything now that there is a legal case. I am disgusted with my brother. I don’t know what to do with myself. I am sitting down by myself just thinking about everything and my life. I’m physically getting sick as well. I cannot stop shaking and my heart cannot stop pounding. It’s been 3 days now and I’ve never had so much anxiety and anxiety/ panic attacks. My whole life is ruined. How can my bf & I ever get through this ordeal? My bf is my home and safe place. The fact I cannot come home like usual and have our normal relationship. I don’t know what to do. I’m mentally not ok.
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