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Guess who I'm Dating? (age gap & distance)
Relationship Stress / by creativeWalker1552
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 March 17th, 2017
...See more Hello, I am a 20 year old female living in New Jersey and I am in an online relashionship with a 39 year old man. Let me explain. We met in November 2016 through a random phone call. I accidentaly called his number and for some reason, I felt a little adventurous so I convinced him to text me and be my friend. When we revealed how old we were, we agreed not to persue eachother romantically and stay friends. However, not long after that we shared a lot of common interests and had similar perspectives on life that really brought us closer. By December, he confessed he had feelings for me and I did too. Despite also confessing some concerns I had about the idea of dating, I eventually decided it'd be best to at least try. Currently, we are getting to the 6 month mark on our relashionship and he's been nothing but kind to me. The distance gets tough at times but we keep the romance through video chats and such. He even promised on meeting me where I live first so I don't have to spend money meeting him. He wants to show that he doesn't care about what money I have or my body; he truly wants to make this work. So what's the problem you may ask? Well, my family. The minute we confirmed that we would be together as a couple, he bragged about it to everyone he knew. He even told his parents. Meanwhile, only one person in my life knows of our relashionship-my friend/roommate in college-other than her, no one has a clue I'm in a relashionship. I've held back for so long because I'm fearful of what my family-especially my mother-would think. I know that I'm of legal age (and he and I met when I was legal) but I still feel like my family would be upset knowing that I'm dating a man living across the country who is 20 years my senior. Part of me is saying I shouldn't care because I'm not doing anything illegal and it's my life, but I can't help but feel like my family would hate me for doing something like this. How can I tell them about this secret boyfriend of mine who I love so dearly? Is it too heavy of a relashionship to bear? P.S I appriciate honesty, but please don't be rude. I know my relashionship is uncanny compared to most, but I believe in my heart that this man is worth my love. Thank you for reading <3
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