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crimsonPapaya8097
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Toxic parent and emotionally abusive home
Family & Caregivers / by crimsonPapaya8097
Last post
 February 27th
...See more Today my mom told me that even though I’m 19 and my sister is 22, it doesn’t matter how old we are, as long as we live u see her roof she owns us. She owns our bank accounts, our social lives, controls even our academic lives in college/grad school. Nothing we have is ours even though we both have full time jobs and pay for our own things. She is emotionally abusive and my dad just leaves because she blames him for everything and doesn’t even let him get a word in. It is cheaper for them to stay together even though they are not “together”. My older sister never stands up to her even though she walks all over her and she’s literally a grown adult, who is smart, a good kid and in literal medical school but somehow we’re “awful, spoiled brats”. I just want to tell her that she just makes me straight up sad. She makes me want to self harm. But she doesn’t care/understand. We get into at least 3 awful fights every week. I’m miserable here but neither my sister or I are financially stable enough to support ourselves especially Bc we’re in school. I try and defend my sister because it’s ridiculous the way she talks to her and us but then I always make it 10x worse. I just can’t sit back and take it like my sister does. I try so hard to make her understand that she can’t treat us like we’re 12 anymore. She drinks too much and refuses to get help for her mental disorders. She has undiagnosed anxiety, OCD, and bipolar.
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Unstable home and emotionally abusive mom
Family & Caregivers / by crimsonPapaya8097
Last post
 June 20th, 2021
...See more Hi this is my first time on here and I didn’t know where else to turn. I’ve had a bad night and I did self harm which is something I haven’t done in a few years. I just really need someone to talk to/vent to please so here it is My parents have a really toxic relationship and they’re only “together” still because of financial reasons but they fight all the time, all of which are instigated by my mom over small unnecessary things that do not need to be screamed over. She blames my dad, my 22 year old sister and me (19) for everything, but mostly my dad. Usually these fights end with my dad leaving and not coming back until the middle of the night, leaving us to deal with my mom. This is when she’ll call us worthless, pathetic, lazy and tell us we do nothing and deserve nothing even thought we both work 40+ hour weeks, are good kids and stay out of trouble. My mom has undiagnosed mental disorders and refuses to get treated. She has control of our bank accounts so she can take our money at any time and we can’t do anything about it. She treats us like we’re children even though we are adults and doesn’t let us do anything besides go to work and come home. I start working 60 hour weeks next week and I’m so mentally and physically exhausted and burnt out that I can’t do this anymore. I need the money so I can pay for school and try to save up to move out but everything seems to hopeless I don’t know what to do. Every night is the same and nothing seems to get better. All my friends tell me to just get in my car and drive away or stand up to her but they don’t understand that I can’t do that. She has complete control over us and I feel so helpless. Every night I’m miserable and just want a different life
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