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Knowingly Minor Struggles That Feel Major in Our Marriage
Relationship Stress / by crystalvalley
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 February 24th, 2021
...See more I apologize in advance for the long post. This is my first time on here and I’m hoping it goes well, please let me know if I didn’t utilize this correctly 😬. 🤞🏻 My husband and I have been married for 3.5 years. We began dating in high school at age 17. We are now about to be 27. The type of person I developed to be since a young age was a planner. Going into our relationship I felt I was clear on what I wanted my future to be - as far as where I would want to raise our family, how I wanted to begin our family, how my family dynamic is, etc. I knew that as we grew older some things would change, and I am not a “this is what it is because I said so” type of person. I know we must adapt. The first two years of our marriage My husband was very agreeable to my train of thought....but I feel like as we are getting older my “wants” are becoming a topic of argument all the time. He gets frustrated and “doesn’t argue” (except for he begins elevating his voice and giving attitude) and I shut down and become quiet to avoid further conflict. I get frustrated/anxious trying to get my thoughts across and try to distance myself from the conversation to not further aggravate the situation (usually I end up crying in our room.) I try to explain my thoughts and although I know he is listening to what I’m saying I know he is not understanding me. He begins to talk about my older sister whom I have lots of respect for and says that my thoughts are not my own. I don’t know how I can better explain that my thoughts are my own - not my siblings. Advice?
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