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dendainsonne
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Husband begging me to give him a chance
Addiction Support / by dendainsonne
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 February 9th, 2023
...See more Hi everyone.. I just found out the reason my husband has not been intimate with me is he has been addicted to porn for the past 2-3 years.. For he thus is like cheating and betrayal.. we are working through talking about it since I confronted him but I’ve hit a wall because I can’t get past how little I’ve been appreciated and comparing myself to the women on the screen. I feel incapable of making a decision of leaving or staying because it’s too painful for me. it all stems from his other traumas he should have dealt with a long time ago. Instead he has let them ruin what we had. how am I supposed to go on? I can’t imagine ever trusting him again.. but he wants to do anything to make that happen, I just have so little sympathy left.
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Unappreciated & future uncertain
Relationship Stress / by dendainsonne
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 September 16th, 2022
...See more Hi everyone.. just fighting hard not to fall into a depression and I really wanted others thoughts to help me through my journey. I have been married for 6 years - my husband and I have been through layers of issues due to family and work for years which just finally unraveled last year when my husband basically had a breakdown and withdrew himself from everything. He became addicted to online games and just being on chats on his phone, and completely dissociated from real life. I was ignored and neglected, and when I tried to push for communication he decided he needed to leave for a while. This was all after talking much with a woman online who was herself in an unhappy relationship and basically lived online. after a lot of therapy and effort I can say that after 3 months we were back in the same house and it’s been a year since that all happened. We have been doing well but it has been a challenge to get here. I am still incredibly hurt by what happened and how I was treated during that time. I don’t know if I will ever be able to move on from it. my husband is going back to school for engineering, and a couple days ago he asked if I could get a ride home with a coworker so he could stay at school into the dinner hour with a girl from his class to study because she posted online looking for study partners. After last year where he was ignoring me to sit on voice chat online with a girl for months I have trouble being comfortable with that. I thought about it for a few days and looked for advice. I told him I loved him very much but at this time I would just feel better if he didn’t do that - if it were a man or if I was there it would be okay, I guess, but my insecurities were never properly reassured and I never healed from last time there was a problem. being someone who has dedicated myself to my partner, I hoped to be heard simply for my feelings and consider this to be a common understanding. But for him he just got mad and upset. He decided to go home after our talk and post online on Reddit about this, saying I was limiting his study partners to half the population and it was unfair that he isn’t trusted, asking people online if he’d be an asshole if he just went and studied with her anyway regardless of my wishes or feelings. There was no consideration or information shared about how we got here now and why this is happening. I guess I wanted everyone’s opinion of this. I have always tried to be fair to my husband and have been setting my feelings aside since we have been back together simply so he doesn’t have to deal with them. It seems like every time I feel anything he is just annoyed, so I got used to not having a right to my own sensitivity.
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