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determinedCup9001
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i regret the way i handled things ending with this guy i was seeing
Relationship Stress / by determinedCup9001
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 December 9th, 2023
...See more this guy (20) and me (20) had been going out this past month and it all came to a halt a few days ago. let me start off by saying i dont catch feelings for people quickly but this past month with him had felt as if ive known him forever. i really liked him a lot and im truly so sad about it ending. the reason we ended things is bc i was noticing that he couldnt give me his all, the effort wasnt fully there and it just seemed like there was a lil bit of disconnect at times from his side. i already knew he was a very busy person and theres just a lot of responsibilities and *** on his plate rn. so after asking him if he even has time for a relationship rn he told me no. that it isn’t bc of me bc he really likes me a lot but that its just not the right moment. he told me he thinks we shojld slow things down, we can still keep contact but just work less towards love. initially i agreed with this but after overthinking an entire night i sent him a long message basically saying i dont believe in having the wrong moment, that the right person would put in the effort no matter what and that i want to cut off contact completely. i also want to cut off contact bc having a little bit of him doesn’t work for me. i need a lot of reassurance and effort in a relationship bc of insecurities and otherwise ill make myself go crazy. he just send me a very short response (i understand you) that didnt clarify anything for me and spooks in my mind. now looking back i regret saying that and don’t stand behind the statement. ive had times where theres been so much on my plate that i didnt make time for the ones i love most or that i wasn’t truly present while with others. mind u all of these convos were held over text which i rlly regret. so rn im debating whether to text him and ask him to meet up so we can talk in person one last time about the way i ended things and regretting that. ill tell him about changing my mind on the wrong moment thing, that if there ever is a right moment i want him to know the doors open from my side and i want to talk about moving forward and that we dont have to completely cut off contact. is this a logical thing to do or am i being selfish and would u handle differently in this situation? 
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