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discreetSailboat9067
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Hsv-2 - when do you tell someone?
Relationship Stress / by discreetSailboat9067
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 November 6th, 2023
...See more I have been dwelling negatively on my hsv-2 diagnosis for years and consequently have not had a relationship either. I have tried dating, but always end up feeling too ashamed to tell the other person, and too guilty to keep it a secret so I break it off. I don't want to ruin another persons life. But when the sex topic comes up, I feel that I can't trust the man I'm seeing to keep my sexual health between us if we stop dating. When I've told my past boyfriends, the news spread to his friends. My friends don't know about my diagnosis and constantly make jokes and talk about other people with herpes like they are scum. It sucks not even being able to tell the people I'm closest with that this issue hurts me every day. I want to live a normal life, but I have so much anxiety about this topic that I avoid dating completely. I crave companionship, but my disease makes my sex life complicated and impossible. When is the appropriate time to tell someone? Even if we're not having sex, is it my responsibility to tell him just because he is interested in me? What if I am wasting his time by waiting? I would really appreciate others' thoughts and experiences.
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