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drzombienoodles
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PathStep 17 Compassion hearts166 Forum posts49 Forum upvotes125 Current upvotes125 Age GroupAdult Last activeJuly, 2026 Member sinceJuly 27, 2024
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Me Ranting Out Loud
Work & Career / by drzombienoodles
Last post
 July 18th
...See more I’m about to have something big happen in my life and that’s moving to a different country. No, I don’t have a job. No I don’t have a place to live and yes, I leave in two months. Yes, everyone has said this is a bad an idea but yes, there are people support me. But the biggest thing is yes, I have thought this through. There are options, there are volunteer programs that provide free rent, I have the skills to get a job, I can do this and I have to keep telling myself this because no one else will. Maybe I started this too soon, maybe this is a huge risk, but honestly, what’s the worst that could happen? I can always move back home or I could get there and end up being the best version of myself. what sucks though is now I feel like I HAVE to be successful. This has to work because of it doesn’t, then everyone was right who doubted me because we live in a society that does not celebrate failures like we should. We don’t think it’s okay to fail and that’s what isn’t okay. I have my doubts about this and I am scared but that’s all it is- fear. My desire to do this, experience this, and see if I can to do this is stronger then my fear of it. What am I gonna do if I don’t move? Stay at the same job I hate, living in a place I don’t wanna be in and never taking a risk? Am I just supposed to be suffocated into my comfort zone because some people scared me into thinking I can’t do this? This might be ego, but my desire to prove these people wrong is stronger than my fear of listening to them. Sometimes you gotta take risks to get what you want. As a lecture I once heard said: “They don’t make statues of critics”
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I’m moving and my friends are distancing from me
Friendship Support / by drzombienoodles
Last post
 June 5th
...See more I’m moving this year but not till the end of the year ahd my friends I have seen to be distancing themselves ever since I told them the news. They don’t text me as much, we don’t hangout as much, and our conversations feel empty. I used to text obe friend about my day and they would do the same but now we hardly text sbd she only responds with reactions on messages instead of actually replying. I also only see her once a week now. Another friend I used to call all the time but we’ve gone weeks without calling. We still text and everything but I just feel a strain. This all happened around the time I said I was moving. And when I talk about it, they never say anything positive. They are all very neutral about it. No one’s said “oh congrats” or anything. I know it’s probably cause I’m going far and they will miss me which is nice and I understand but I also feel like it’s slightly selfish to not be positive and happy for me on my new journey in life.
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My friends dont support me
Friendship Support / by drzombienoodles
Last post
 May 9th
...See more I want to quit my job and pursue my dream career and move away to a different country. I plan on basicalky quitting my job and just moving and applying to jobs when I get the my destination. I don’t feel any support from friends or family. My best friend in the world has been acting off. Like there’s this strain between us and sges not one to talk about her feelings so when I bring it up she just kindly dismissed it. But it’s different with her. I just feel like the vibes are off becayse I know she doesn’t want me moving and oyr career preferences have changed. We both wanted to do the same job but then she changed and doesn’t want to do it anymore but I do. Because of that, I feel like she’s been acting different now because of it. My other friend literally told me I’m a bad person for quitting my job with no other job lined up. I don’t feel any support for this. Don’t hey know I’m unhappy with my current situation. They know I what k want to do with my life yet everyone is just so freaking negative about it. I should never have told anyone and just done it.
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Split political life
Women's Issues / by drzombienoodles
Last post
 June 2nd
...See more I’ve always lived in a split political environment. Half my family is extremely republican and the other half is extremely democratic. The same literally goes with my friends to. I’ve grown up being shamed by both sides completely and told that I don’t know what I’m talking about. Literally every political insult you could think of, I’ve heard it from both sides because I always felt like I was in the middle before wise. But now it’s gotten so much worse. I’m getting so frustrated because everyone just yells and insults ahd never actually listens to each other or me. Everything I do is wrong, I’m criticized for basicalky busy existing. It’s gotten so bad that I have to get my hormone levels tested because of how unbelievable stressed I am when I’m just trying to survive and live my life. I never asked for either opinion but everyone feels they have the right to just put me or people I know down. There’s no reasoning with either side in my friends and family group. I just want to shut my phone off and go run into the woods to ignore everyone.
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I dont have any self value
Self-Esteem / by drzombienoodles
Last post
 April 26th
...See more I dong think I have any self value or boundaries for myself. I’m not insecure, but I am a peopke pleaser. I will date men I don’t want to be with because I know they love me and I don’t want to hurt their feelings. Worse is I’ll date horrible men that are emotionally abusive and jerks but they apologize and beg for me and I hate hurting them. I don’t know why but I don’t give it a second thought about if they are hurting me or if I’m not getting the attention I deserve. Like I know what I deserve, I know how they act is not gonna change og better my life, yet the guilt of breaking up with them and hurting them kills me. I never think of myself yet I’m seriously selfish by just dating someone out of guilt. I don’t know how to be honest and express how I’m feeling or be confrontational.
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How to come to peace with facts of my family
Family & Caregivers / by drzombienoodles
Last post
 April 9th
...See more Heres the simple issue: I know my family issues. I know what my mom and dad do that pisses me off. I know they are small minded and never going to change. I’ve tried talking and reasoning for years but I’m still 24 and every time I visit them, they do their habits that just *** me off to no end. Anywhere from petty comments to straight up insults and saying I don’t know what I’m doing. I’ve tried hard to tell them what’s bothering me. Been doing it since I was 20, straight up telling them that this makes me upset, stop. And they don’t. They just say I’m overly sensitive. So now I need advice. How do I stop letting what they do bother me? How do I come to peace with the fact that they won’t change, no matter how much I try to talk to them. How do I stop letting this get to me every time? The anger just boils inside me and I can’t take it anymore.
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I resent my mother
Family & Caregivers / by drzombienoodles
Last post
 June 6th
...See more This is going to be a long thread anf most of it is just me ranting so I don’t totally expect anyone to read all of it. Every time my mother visits me, I get so irritated and snappy. She’s been noticing and we always fight ahd she won’t visit now because of it. It’s bad to say but I don’t really want her to visit. I get so territorial and *** when she’s in my space. I don’t realize how snappy I am until she points out what I’ve said and then I get it. But honestly, I have so much pent up anger towards for so many reasons. In a simplified sense, shes a professional victim. I’m never allowed to be irritated with ger about anything even when she says totally outrageous and mean things. When I call her out on it, she pulls the victim card again sges also alwats needs attention on her. If I’m having a conversation with someone about a topic she doesn’t know, she’ll change it and interrupt suddenly so the attention is on her. Point is, I have a lot of pent up rage over the year for her. So because of that, I snap all the time over the small things. The reasons above are not the only reason I get snappy. There are a ton but I can’t talk to her about days every time I do, she says I’m over sensitive and just a ***. I need to learn to accept the fact that she can’t change. I need to stop trying to reason with because I have for years and it’s always failed. I need to learn to accept how she is and make peace with it and stop letting it get to ke. But I don’t know how. I don’t know how to just let her attitude go and stop being so frustrated with her. My entire family had the same issue ahd my sisters made peace with her behavior. I just haven't yet.
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No one is in my corner
Work & Career / by drzombienoodles
Last post
 March 11th
...See more I’ve hit a point in my life where I feel like I don’t have many people in my corner. I feel like everyone has this different expectation of me and my dreams are not coming into consideration with them. I have a great job right now. It pays well and I’m helping people and in no means do I dislike it. Just this is not what I want or have ever planned on doing with my life. I’ve always wanted to work in publishing and went to school for it and everything. Due to recent changes, I am applying to jobs now and plan on quiting my current position when I get the job I want. No one seems to support this. Every time I say the position I have, everyone is like “omg that’s great! You are awesome helping people” and then when I say I’m actually studying to get into book publishing, they seem shocked and are nice about it but I can tell what is on their mind is “but why would you leave such a great job now?” At first it was strangers or just acquaintances who did this and now it’s like my friends are even skeptical about my goals. Honestly I’m gonna say this out loud for the first time and I’m not sure if anyone here will understand but it makes me feel better saying this. Quitting my job now anf moving into my parents house is actually the smartest decision. Being unemployed for a bit while I apply to the jobs I want is my best bet and I know this for CERTAIN based on my research and education about the book industry ahd my current situation. Of course no one thinks so. I don’t talk to my family about it becayse they call me stupid for even thinking of quitting and I thought I could talk to my friends but one friends said I’m a bad person if i quit without a job lined up already. The only thing all these people have in common is they don’t know what they are talking about nor do they understand the industry. I wish I had the guts to just up and quit and leave but it’s gonna take me a bit to get to that point. I just wish someone would stop giving me “advice” and start giving me encouragement. I don’t care even if this was a bad decision, I need validation and encouragement. I don’t need advice.
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