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I want to become less reactive to his bad behaviour
Relationship Stress / by dynamicJackfruit5426
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 April 4th
...See more I have been with my husband for over 25 years. We got together really young, made our family and have been through a lot of trauma together. He used to have addiction problems (which made his moods erratic and there were times he was abusive- he is now clean but our relationship is explosive. We fight hard and love hard) and I had baggage from growing up with an abusive dad. I get very defensive and reactive when ever he does something that hurts me. I guess I can be abusive to him as he is very sensitive to everything. I know it's my defense mechanism to protect myself. I want to learn to be less reactive/ have less explosive reactions. For us, but more for myself. I have started to have high blood pressure from the stress ( I found out he did something behind my back that really was out of character for him - not cheating) and I want to be able to let certain things go and handle how I react to them better. 
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