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Regret breaking up with her immediately
Relationship Stress / by easyShade4312
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 May 24th, 2021
...See more Been dating this girl about 3 months. Everything was perfect, even managed to get feelings for her, usually takes like 6 months to get to that point! Anyway, on a night out, she asked my friend, who she'd met like 30 seconds beforehand, if she could sit on his lap, as the barman told her to sit down and there were no seats available. I found out a week later, calmly brought it up to her, and she explained it was nothing weird, and meant nothing by it, she was just interested in meeting my friends and didn't want to leave their table. That she doesn't see gender and will sit on anyone's lap if she's comfortable with them, but she won't do it anymore. She was very drunk that night, lapse of judgement maybe, but i believe her when she said she didn't mean anything by it. But i get distant, as I'm worried she leads men on, knowingly or not, while drunk. But i visit her to talk about it and see she left open a conversation with het friend (she met through a friend of mine on discord a month earlier). They have been going for walks/food together, playing video games and watching anime virtually. She told me its just platonic, she's met his girlfriend on discord and they do this stuff like once a week. She talks about how worried she is about how distant i was at the time, when they go out together. I said that im ok with it, now i know the context. We spend an amazing day together, then a few days later i decide that no, I'm not ok with any of this. I break up with her over text. And remove her from all platforms, to not see her name everywhere. Then it comes to light that she actually REALLY liked me, saw us being in a relationship, eventually. But she blocked me. She was amazing, other than this stuff, and tbh I could have looked past the difference in boundaries if I'd have calmed down more and thought about it rationally. Our mutual friend told me she's hurting deeply. Ive broke things off with girls before and never felt this much regret. It's been a day since the breakup messaged her, saying I'd like to apologise/explain for cutting her off so abruptly, but i understand if she doesn't want to talk. And no reply 😅 she's seems done Any advice for dealing with all this regret? I'm such an idiot
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