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enthusiasticCucumber2103
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Falling out of love..
Relationship Stress / by enthusiasticCucumber2103
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 June 26th, 2022
...See more I think I’m falling out of love with my husband. We’ve been together for 10 years and he’s cheated on me our whole relationship. I decided to marry him last year cuz he said that would change everything. I knew it probably wouldn’t but it’s worth a try. we have 4 kids combined that we’ve raised together so I want it to work for them. His bm has been in and out of her daughters life and our co parenting relationship has been challenging but 3 years ago we decided to put things behind us and be closer. Well last October her boyfriend (that we were also cool with) went to jail and me being the nice person I am offered to help her out while he was in there with watching kids or just hanging out cuz she was bored. One night she asked to stay the night cuz she didn’t want to go home. I said it was fine and even though I didn’t trust it I was hoping our friendship & my relationship is strong enough they won’t play me. Well supposably nothing happened the THREEEEE days she stayed. I told her that she basically overstayed her welcome and I still want a friendship but she’s starting to cross boundaries (sleeping naked on the couch/ coming in our room and laying on the bed with us/etc). She got really mad and my husband kinda took her side. We ended up getting Covid so I was really sick and he kept leaving me and staying out all night which wasn’t something he had been doing since we got married. I looked at the call/text log and they had been talking NON STOP since she left. Long story short they ended up hanging out and having sex til December when her bf got out. My husband started drinking a lot and I didn’t understand why but I think it’s because her bf was home and she didn’t choose him. Well I found out the end of December about all this and was so hurt. He didn’t really have anything to say at first then he said he regretted it and it should have never happened. I haven’t gone through his phone or anything since the end of Dec I’m sooo much happier but I still have to see the bm sometimes. She doesn’t talk to me unless we’re all together like gives me dirty looks and stuff. They have a good relationship and her bf knows nothing. She still invites us to stuff like I want to hang out with her and I hate it. Basically I can’t stand him anymore. I can’t get over it. He never talked to me about it and I feel like he didn’t choose me he just stayed with me cuz I was here. Anytime I get mad I just end up dropping it cuz I honestly don’t care to argue with him. I want to stay because of the kids and I can’t financially do it on my own but I think I’m missing out on my person because I’m with him.
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Idk what to do
Relationship Stress / by enthusiasticCucumber2103
Last post
 August 25th, 2021
...See more I’ve been with my husband for 9 years only married for 4 months. He’s cheated multiple times over the 9 years and he said everything would be different once we got married. Idk why I believed that since nothing has ever changed. About 2 years ago we broke up and he had sex with my friend that used to live with us and she got pregnant. The timing was off so I don’t think it was his baby and he claims it wasn’t but idk why he would keep talking to her. Well he started talking to her again. I keep trying to talk to him about it and he’ll get mad and say I pushed him to talk to her or other females. He said to print off divorce papers and he’ll sign them because I never give him any peace. We have 4 kids and just got a house. Idk what to do. He doesn’t want to do counseling or anything else I suggest. I guess I just need someone to talk to.
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