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fairmindedSummer3137
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Relationship Stress / by fairmindedSummer3137
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 January 24th, 2021
...See more I recently found out my husband is having an affair, lasting around 1 year. He says he wants to stay with me and work on our marriage but is still in touch with the other women and has feelings for her. He has told her a few times it's over but they refuse to block each other and remain in contact. I have no idea what to do. I want to make my marriage work we have been together 17 years, but cant make it work if he wont stop seeing her. He has been honest and said he finds it hard to not speak to her but knows he is hurting me too. He has alot of other problems in his life, parent deaths, drug abuse and depression, Although I dont think the other woman knows half of this. He has promised to try but cant promise he wont message her and surprise surprise, there were messages on his phone today. We argue every day, how can we work on this if they wont leave each other alone.I feel we need space but when mentioned he says I'm pushing him out and I dont want him moving in with her (which is the only place he can go)and then lose the chance to work on this for good. Sorry this is so long
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