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Crush on my coworker
Relationship Stress / by fearlessCucumber12
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 January 18th, 2021
...See more Hi! I’m new to this so bear with me. I have recently developed feelings for a coworker. I am in the process of leaving an emotionally abusive 5 year relationship with a guy that happens to also work with us. My crush knows that we’re dating. I have mentally been over my relationship for over a year now but just had to get a few things settled before actually leaving. My boyfriend knows I’m unhappy and I’ve made it very clear that if he doesn’t change I’m going to leave. He hasn’t made much of an effort to change so that’s exactly what I’m going to do is leave. I met my crush a few months ago and knew almost immediately that I wanted to be with this guy. Sometimes I really think he likes me and other times I’m not so sure and think he could just see us as friends. He’s very shy. I don’t want to ask him outright especially since I’m in a relationship technically. I have never crossed that line with my crush. Like I said, he’s very shy so a few signs I’ve noticed is that he goes the long way to “refill his water” but looks at me as he passes. We work in a warehouse although the area we work in is only the size of a football field compared to the rest of the warehouse it’s still way out of his way to do this. He’ll go out of his way to work with me or help me out with things. I catch him looking at me all the time and previously he would look away but now that we’re more comfortable with each other sometimes he makes eye contact with me and smiles. We clicked immediately. We have so much in common and get along very well. He’s honestly my dream guy. Every time we’re together we’re always smiling and laughing and joking and occasionally he’ll tease me about things. We’ve had deep conversations about our future goals, his past experiences, our life, family, and even having kids some day etc.. Every time we talk he looks directly in my eyes and I can tell he genuinely enjoys talking to me. Sometimes when he can he’ll come over to my work area and stand there until I’m free to talk. He doesn’t do this with anyone else. He’s tried to walk with me to break or out of the building before but I feel weird doing this because of still technically being in a relationship. He asks about my boyfriend sometimes but more so about equipment that he drives at work and stuff like that. Never about our relationship. I think he can tell I’m not happy with him though. When my boyfriend and I are together I can’t get myself to even fake smile anymore and I basically shut down. He mentally sucks the life out of me. I’m not sure how to hint to my crush that I’m not happy with him anymore though or if I should even tell him. Is that crossing a boundary? My current boyfriend has lowered my self esteem tremendously from years of emotional abuse and sometimes I can’t even comprehend the fact that another guy- especially as attractive as my crush- would like me. What do you think? What do I do in this situation? I’m scared that once my boyfriend and I do break up I will have to leave my job anyway but I plan to find a way to keep in contact with my crush if that’s the case.
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