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fightoffyourdemonsnow
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Eating Disorder Support / by fightoffyourdemonsnow
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 September 2nd, 2015
...See more Hi there, my girlfriend is a recovering anorexic. She was very ill a few years ago but has been better for the last 2 or 3. Recently she has started getting fears again (partly to do with her becoming vegan). We are both doing the vegan journey together (I didn't ask her to, I even suggested we take it slowly) but I am confident she wants to do it for the correct reasons (animal cruelty, a healthier way of living etc). However, I know this is starting to trigger her. I've researched and I think I'm pretty good at what NOT to say to her to make things worse, but what I really want to know is what I CAN say to her. Even if it's indirectly to at least make her feel more positive on a day to day basis. I've been told saying how beautiful she is can make it worse at times because it reinforces the need to look good. She is also quite off sex at the moment, she is wearing a lot of baggy clothes etc. I'm obviously fine with that - I understand, I'm just torn between not wanting to initiate sexual contact because it will make her feel under pressure, but I'm also scared of making her feel unattractive by not initiating something. I myself have OCD and have had years of therapy for it, along with anxiety and depression. She is a very strong woman and I don't want to patronize her, but I know she has been confiding in a friend of her's (who suffers as well) and I'm worried that she will get into a cycle again. Any advice would be great. She talks to me about it sometimes, but I'm looking fot day to day advice on how to make her feel better. I know she's at work now upset about things and I want a way of comforting her, without DIRECTLY mentioning her disorder. Sorry for the long message, thank you in advance for your help. x
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