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fin8822
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Cheating Trauma
Relationship Stress / by fin8822
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 October 29th, 2019
...See more Hello, so me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years now. At the beginning of our relationship, he had sort of recently been out of a relationship where his ex cheated on him with his best friend, but we felt so good together and he assured me that he was over it. So for the first probably 5 months of our relationship, his mother decided to bring around his ex, I was worried and feeling a little insecure but I had trust in my boyfriend. After some time, she fades out of the picture and I was very happy. I thought that meant all my problems and insecurity would go away. Not. Later on I had found him texting her and there was nothing bad in the texts really just seeing how each other was doing and whatever but I felt betrayed. He has texted her a couple times over the past couple years and she had started most of the conversations herself. I was so distraught I didnt know what to do and all he kept saying was that he would be with her if he wanted to, he wants me, everyday, always. I really dont know what to do. I have been feeling suffocated by my thoughts and feelings since this that I do not know what to do. I have looked online and it says that infidelity can actually resonate as a trauma in the body and now I understand why I have been so sensitive to this but I dont know. I understand that he may need to work out his own issues due to her cheating and thats ok but I just dont know how to help myself feel okay again, in my relationship and in my own mind.
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