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footballorbmo
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life is a complicated and intricate route and I am in awe at being alive



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why be good hard?
20 & Over / by footballorbmo
Last post
 July 19th
...See more Hello, I SEO'd the thread title to be concise. I never considered myself to be a morally overwhelmingly white person. Like most people, I've done good things that helped people and I've done bad things that hurt people. As a complex being with a complex social life, I think I'm just morally grey, like I imagine the average human to be. Anyway, recently I've thought about personal/social relationships and it seemed to me that being a better person in some aspects requires constant effort and self-editing. You need to align yourself with the other side's background to the best of your abilities. I'm not sure "background" is the best word here. What I'm trying to say is that basically, you have to try and adapt to be empathetic towards other people in the way they'd consider you to be empathetic or thoughtful or whatever... Hopefully, you get the idea. Thus, I've been thinking. Why is it so hard to be a good person? Why is sometimes being genuinely yourself not enough, or considered an effort in an irrelevant direction?  And why does it feel outlandish to think that I'm a horrible person because it requires effort to think and act "good"? Why is it not enough to just be neutral?
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i love my pardner
20 & Over / by footballorbmo
Last post
 May 20th
...See more Hello, no issues here, i just wanted to share something happy. Feel free to engage in or just ignore. Have a happy week! I love my partner. I love them so so much. I want to be with them all the damn time. It feels like we're one soul, and it feels broken when we're not together. No problem or anything, i just wanted to share. we're currently apart because of work and i miss them and it just doesn't feel fair that i can't be physical, share a meal, do mundane things with them, or hold them when they're feeling down. i wanna be with them every moment and do everything together even when we're not doing anything
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Alienated
General Support / by footballorbmo
Last post
 January 17th
...See more Hi. I will keep this very superficial and short. I've been experiencing new emotions and (re)discovering some issues. Consequently, it feels... strange, in my head. I am having difficulties recognizing what's going on. Some thoughts and feelings are so alien that i question if I'm still me after experiencing them. the weirder part is, i thought i was okay. now it's all just out there, albeit only for me to see. i cannot even properly explain what it all is like. if you've been through something similar, please do drop a comment and your insights.
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I need help/insights on an LDR
Relationship Stress / by footballorbmo
Last post
 January 5th
...See more Hello folks, Hope you are all doing OK. Today, I'm here to share a very recent story that's still developing. I would love some insights as I have never had any experience regarding long distance relationships (LDR).  I've recently met someone through online channels, which are not really known to be markets for partners, on their initiation. We'd been talking at some capacity since early November. I'm saying "at some capacity" because I never explicitly knew their intentions until the New Year's Eve, when we had the chance to speak on the phone. Prior to that, I'd get occasional praise on my career, personality, and looks, but I hadn't thought much of it. Anyway, after we spoke for like an hour, they texted me that they loved me, which came as a shock to me, because how could something like that not shock anyone. Since then, we've been more confidently trading words of affection. I still haven't said anything in line of "ILY" because it's a tad extreme for me. We haven't yet met in person, and been only talking for 2 months. Receiving affectionate texts feels good, that I can establish, but it is still nothing short of weird for me. I don't know how i could (or even if i should) somehow find a way to know that they really mean what they say, and are not just throwing big words. I like to think that there is no reason for them to lie to me. I'm generally anxious about this type of stuff, so the chemicals in my brain sure don't help. I'd love to hear your thoughts and insights on this, and if you have any questions i'd also be willing to answer.  Cheers!
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i am over-rational and have severe-feeling trust issues.
Relationship Stress / by footballorbmo
Last post
 August 4th, 2024
...See more Hey, I just don't know. I am too rational regarding my relationships with practically anyone and I can't trust new people. I always find myself thinking that people might be plotting against me even though there is not a single reason someone would do such a thing. I can't just live emotions and must always think everything through and thoroughly like a robot. I am afraid that this may end up hurting people around me and in turn, might end up isolating me even further. I need help.
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why am i so distant?
Relationship Stress / by footballorbmo
Last post
 July 2nd, 2023
...See more hello. i recently realized that i am not that much of a warm-blooded person. i love my friends, but i can never keep contact with them. most of the time, i feel that i don't even belong with my friends that i deem close (even though we do not know a lot about each other). i feel like this with my romantic existence as well. i have not properly felt romantic attraction towards anyone and it feels like my life is a one-person show. i am not even sure I would keep contact with my family if I went away -not because i detest them; I love them very much. I am not good to make small talk to, and I barely initiate and can carry on surface-level conversations. why in the world am i like this? i sometimes feel like a robot incapable of feeling love towards other people.
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