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...See more We've been together for a few years and are engaged but things have deteriorated to IMO unsalvageable circumstances. We argue non stop over nothing, nothing I do is ever good enough to make her happy, I'm in a constant battle of walking on eggshells. Without getting too into it, one example is I brush my teeth at work because if I take too long getting ready she thinks I'm trying to impress someone and cheat on her. For the record, I never cheated on her and work with all men. My financial stability is non existent because we fight over everything I can't even pay my bills without a hassle. We have a one year old, she has a 9 and 11 year old from a previous marriage and I have a 6 year old from a previous marriage as well. When I've said I want to leave, I get guilted into staying by her telling me I'm a bad dad. That I'm the worst person ever for hurting the kids like that and that they look at me more as their dad than their actual father (which is true) and that the baby is going to be so sad and confused if I'm not there every day. Now this is all said in a much more nasty/demeaning way. I don't want to hurt the kids at all, but at the end of the day, why is it my responsibility that their real father isn't around? I don't want them to think another man walked out, but I don't think I need to sacrifice my happiness and everything for that. Even though I feel awful saying that too. I'm miserable, she's miserable. All we do is fight. It's not a healthy spot for any of our kids to see and I feel like I can be a better dad to mine if we weren't together. I don't think I'm evil for wanting to move on

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