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friendlyTangerine8933
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General Support / by friendlyTangerine8933
Last post
 January 24th, 2024
...See more Hi, I'm back after a long while with a problem yay. Im also not sure how I'm supposed to format this or if I'm even supposed to rant on here but... anyways... so... I'm going to sound like a really messed up person because that's genuinely what I'm feeling about myself right now and I feel like that makes sense and I'm overthinking the entire situation... so here goes Someone asked me for help about a crush and told me most of the tiny details... and since i used to know both of them, I supported it and I thought it was a good idea to ask the other person if they did have a crush last semester and they told me no and kept pressing me for why I was asking so I gave vague details that a guy liked her but she probably doesnt like him and I messed up and asked her to swear to secrecy (she did not) and then I talked to the guy about it (I was talking to them both at the same time) and he told me how he wasnt sure if he messed up and believed he should give up and since the girl told me she didnt like anyone and still doesnt, then I encouraged him to give up and that was that, I thought I helped. Then my friend messaged me today and asked me what I was thinking to interfere, that I shouldnt cause I know nothing and she lied to me and I broke his trust by going behind his back to do this, which is true and i shouldnt have done so but I was scared of encouraging him to like a girl who didnt care about him... so that's why I asked the girl... but now I'm regretting the whole thing and I really shouldnt have interfered because now I've just messed the whole situation up and I'm scared of the guys response (he actually sent a message asking if I told her anything cause he heard something from her) and I'm just... I know I did something horrible and I'm not sure how to fix it anymore and I was hoping for some advice
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Depression Support / by friendlyTangerine8933
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 November 11th, 2021
...See more Hi, I'm new here and I'd like to thank the people who read this in advance and thank the people who give responses. Thank you. Since I was little, I never really knew what being a friend was. I was alone in 1st grade and in 2nd grade, I only had a few friends. By 3rd grade I had a lot, but our school was small so we all had to transfer to different schools. I was very open as a kid, so I made friends in around 5th grade, but then it was time to graduate. Everyone in each class knew each other so well that I felt like an outsider even as a kid. I forgot to mention that back in 4th grade, I became best friends with 2 people and one of them had anger issues. We fought often and there was a lot of friendship drama. It kind of made me scared to approach other people because I seriously didnt want to hurt others. Then middle school rolled around and I became best friends with someone I really regret. I was always kind as a kind and kind of a pushover (as my parents have told me often) and my so called 'best friend' took advantage of that. At first, I thought "this is what friends should do. Help each other when they ask for it." And based on that, I assumed that she would stay my friend if I continued to help her. But then came an art project. I already had my details crafted and I started working on it, then my friend came to ask for help. Now our teacher was strict about helping each other, she said we should rely on our own imagination, so I told my friend that I had to work on my own since it was an important project. Then said called me a uhhh... female dog and broke off our friendship just like that. But that isnt even the worst part. While we were friends, she cut me off from getting close to anyone in the class, so I relied on her and only her. So when she broke off our friendship, I had no one. This went on and off for the entire year, with ME APOLOGIZING for not being useful enough. But dont worry, I moved away. 7th grade and 8th grade were pretty good, but as my parents got more involved in my life, they always gave passing comments that they probably thought would help me, but didnt. Then Covid hit and I was in my worst state because I realized just how damaging my 6th grade life was to me during that time and how my parents' words didnt help. I tried telling my parents how I felt, but they gave me weird looks or weren't even listening. That look said "You should only be happy." Ever since then, I never wanted to open up to anyone. After all the friendship problems and straight up getting my problems ignored by my family, made me feel like I could only trust the stuffed animals in my room to protect me. And the rule of staying happy was, after a while, ingrained into me. I often cry in my room because that's the only place I can pour my heart out (my parents hate it when I cry, they say that I look weak and its pointless). Whenever I leave my room, I always plaster a smile on my face and pretend everything's okay. It was fine at first, no one could tell and everytime someone asked me if I was fine, I just said yeah I'm good. I always let them vent because I have no idea what I can even vent about when my life is just a jumbled mess I havent figured out yet. So... that was a huge information dump, I'm sorry. But yeah... what should I do at this point?
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