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Absolute disdain of sudden change of plans.
ADHD Support / by frostypatterns
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 June 3rd
...See more Is that a common symptom? If it's not something routine, I usually schedule at least two days ahead, because I need one full day to mentally prepare for it. There's no way in the world I can encounter a sudden change of plans that would force me to do something / go somewhere the exact same day without me getting angry. It ruins my whole day. No matter if it's just a hairdresser asking for a reschedule or once-in-a-lifetime meeting, it makes no difference to my brain. Even if something pops up that I'd have to do the immediate next day, I'd be at least temporarily *** off. That has persisted throughout my life. I think it has something to do with executive dysfunction. If anyone experiences the same thing, do you have any advice?
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Help? Supportive person became queerphobic.
LGBTQ+ / MOGII Support / by frostypatterns
Last post
 March 12th
...See more Hello, I am new here and in need of advice. I live in a country where most people are homophobic. I am only out to 2 people, my closest friends. One of them became very religious recently and it changed his views a lot. He used to be an ally, incredibly supportive. Since he became religious we stopped talking about anything LGBTQ+ related, but I thought he was still supportive. I was wrong. He recently made a very quick transphobic comment publicly. It wasn't a joke, he pretty much said something like "I am against these types of things". I just can't believe this happened. I'm not trans, so I guess perhaps he feels comfortable enough to straight up say that in front of me, while avoiding the topic of orientation (something that specifically applies to me). But I do not want to be friends with a transphobe. I want to talk to him 1 on 1 about his views, and I suspect this will be the end of our decade long friendship. I just don't understand why and how he changed like that. I really really hope there's a chance he'd rethink his views. If any of you had an experience of successfully changing someone's opinions on LGBTQ+ in a positive way, can you please share your stories and advice? If he changed once already, I'm really hoping he could change again...
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