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Am I acting to irrationally ??
Relationship Stress / by generousTree1910
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 July 30th, 2022
...See more My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 6 months, we love each other and we’ve already established that we’re going to marry each other (he’s getting me a promise ring for our 6 month anniversary) We’re a long distance couple, about 5 hours away from each other and I knew getting in to the relationship that it would be hard but I didn’t think it would make me so short tempered with him. We get in fights easily, they’re solved easily as well of course but getting into them is the easiest thing in the world. Here’s were I don’t know if I was acting crazy or not. He went to a music festival last night that would end the next day which I had my concerns about because he’s such a party guy and doesn’t really know when to stop. His phone always dies and normally he would send me updates out of respect. Now last night his phone didn’t die, he kept his location on all the time so I could see him which I really appreciated. But the updates were extremely brief and there was such a long time apart from each update, he mentioned that his friends got in a fight and he had to sort it which I understand but that meant he had to drive to another city nearby as his other friend had started his journey there to beat someone up idk. This all happened at around 1am and when he got to the city he had managed to patch everything up. I had fallen asleep and had assumed that they’d all go home and pretty much end the night there. But I woke up at around 5am in a cold sweat because I just had a horrible feeling in my stomach, I checked my snap and he had sent me messages. Normal ones like “I’m safe” and such but he also sent a video and it was him at a completely different club. I had no idea they were going to a club, he didn’t tell me. The video was sent at around 4:15am and when I checked his location he wasn’t at his address. He wasn’t even in the same city. Tell me if I’m crazy or not but I just feel really disrespected that I wasn’t given any info on when he was coming home, where he was gonna spend the night or at what time he was gonna be out till. I’ve never been out so late just so he felt comfortable and I’ve updated him all the time, so I don’t know whether he just thought nothing of it and didn’t think that I’d find a problem with it. To be honest I don’t even think people who are in serious relationships should be going out and staying so late like, staying out till 4am whilst you’ve got someone waiting for you at home is insane in my opinion. but honestly I need help. I don’t know whether I’m acting crazy or if it’s justified. I told him how I felt but he thought he’d done nothing wrong. I haven’t spoken to him at all today.
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