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Husband 34 is fantasising my niece
Relationship Stress / by goldenPlum3515
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 May 3rd, 2020
...See more He wants me to not tell them that he is interested in one of them. And want me to respect him. He also want me to help him out with giving good words to them and he doesn't see it as disrespectful. Am I doing the right thing by agreeing to not tell them? Is that a predatory action on his part? I feel like I need to warn my nieces they are friends with him and I am disgusted knowing he is fantasising about my nieces. Is that normal? Is this a normal 30+ y/o male mind set? What should I do? He have told me in a creepy way that they all look so pretty 🤮🤢 and would want to marry one of them.
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Should I give him time?
Relationship Stress / by goldenPlum3515
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 May 2nd, 2020
...See more I'm asexual and my husband of 12 years is very torn between staying or starting a new. I'll start of with we have so much in common from hobbies to moral compass we share same core values. But 5 years ago I got into this depression because he put me in a bubble where I felt like I had to rely on him for everything. I'm literally like a princess..then I became lazy no motivation but I was studying at the time. So I was looking forward to that and entering the work force fast forward to my graduation he convince me to not get a job and just stay at home, his reasoning was "because our love would grow apart" so I stayed at home it became really bad I had no motivation, and ambition I felt like I was living this life of serving him. I felt like a leach providing for us. Then he emotionally cheated because I neglected US. Then I just became resentful while trying to mend our marriage. But somewhere along the line he started asking me to get a job since we moved to a new city where living expenses is high. I had to power through that to push my self to find a job. And that also brought back my motivation. Since I am asexual we compromise on sexual activity and this 1 session we did that involve a pill got me down and I was back on being unmotivated but I try really hard to push through at least my study to get a job. But now he is unsure of what to do. I 2day I told him I'm letting go since. But he wants me to stay while he's indecisive. He said he will rather be lost than loose me.
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