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gregariousMelon6267
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Well, our relationship is over
Relationship Stress / by gregariousMelon6267
Last post
 November 5th, 2022
...See more My ex girlfriend ended things with me 3 weeks ago, the reason for that was that i had a big problem, and that problem caused me to mistreat her, she couldn't be with me nor be with me when i fix that problem with my counselor, she ended things for her health, and that is good, i acknowledge that i mistreated her, i worked hard in fix that problem, analyze it and improve, well, the thing is that she told me that she wants me in her life actively (when we broke up) as a friend, yeah, my mistreatment caused her traumas to her, i just dont understand that she wants me in her life, the thing is that i just want to be with her if we come back as a couple, yeah, ti might be seen as a childish move from my side, but at the end of the day, i need to see for myself now and be with her as a friend doesn't make me any good, i tried, the first days when we broke up i tried but i just cant, pain takes over me, she also feel the pain but she endured it by having the idea of us creating something new, i just don't see that idea, i told her that when we broke up i will just erase her from my life, i hope she remembered that when we broke up, because i will not change my opinion about it, having interactions with her give me a lot of pain, yeah, she tried to change my opinion about it, and she is very emotional when we touch the idea of me erasing her up to the point of telling me that i was fleeing as fleeing in this situation was a bad or toxic way to treat this pain, the reality is that fleeing is a valid way to treat pain, for example, when there is a tornado near your house, you flee, because is the best way to survive, and yeah, im fleeing and that helped me a lot, she even said that disagrees with my opinion, even telling me how that will affect her, every time she sees me she will cry and other things as bad a that, i see the fact of keeping me as her friend as some of the most egocentric acts she ever done, she cant accept my decision to leave, i dont owe her anything and we are no longer anything and that means i am me now, i dont have the obligation to look out for her, my biggest mistake was to give her hope by telling her that we will be friends when we fix our problems and start again, from 0 as unknown people starting something new.
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What i can do?
Relationship Stress / by gregariousMelon6267
Last post
 October 26th, 2022
...See more My ex gf of 2 weeks wants us to be friends, because she said that she really dont want to lose me, she ended our relationship because i mistreated her to the point that she really wanted to end things with me and dont want to be together forever, but at the same time she really wants to be friends, the thing is that i want to be together with her, but as lovers, if my objective doesn't make true then i said her that i dont want to talk to her ever, that is the main problem, the 2 of us wants to be together, but in a different way, really, i dont think that i will be able to be friends with her because i am afraid that i get atached with her, i confess my feelings to her and she rejects me, and the idea of seeing her with someone if we are friends is a idea that will make me very sad, now that i am alone, i have to think about me and i cant do that unless she promises that we will be together, but she cant do that, we agreed that we will have some time far from each other and see if we can start from 0, but with the probability that we can become friends or lovers
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I feel like a monster
General Support / by gregariousMelon6267
Last post
 October 24th, 2022
...See more 2 weeks ago, my partner ended things with me, she did this because she feel something, that something is that she obligated herself to be ok with the things that i proposed, when she told me that, i felt bad with myself, i now saw all my relationship as something, not good nor bad, just something, when she told me to stop something, i did, but sometime later i acted childishly and she felt obligated to be ok with just to see me happy, i, dont know, i feel very bad with me, and i want to find a way to see a light in this darkness, my ex partner had to go to see a psychologist, because she had traumas for the things i done to her, i, dont see me as a good person anymore, and, i saw her every day, because we are in the same classes, i, literally, commited sexual assault to her, but i did it unknowingly
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