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Am I being impatient and overthinking?
Relationship Stress / by happyaccidents24
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 August 8th
...See more So it has this guy i’ve been talking to we’ve known each other for a while and had an on and off past. To start we have open communication so we agreed to not lie to each other cause lying doesn’t benefit anyone and honestly it’s just an extra weight for no reason. But basically we stopped talking for a bit and then reconnected this last March, we spent every single day with each other up until June. To give leo context he is an i dependent contractor who is incharge of all bills for him and his sister, so rent, utilities, phone bills, insurance, etc. So working is how he keeps things running. So basically in June he got a new contract and he explained to me this contract he has to drive more so like an hour or so out and then when he gets there he works for a lot of hours (cause it’s manual work) and he gets tunnel vision when he works so sometimes he would work for like 12 hours straight (and i’ve seen this cause sometimes i used to go to work with him). So I noticed since he got the new contract he hasn’t communicated everyday like what he used to, and uk being a normal girl i asked if he was talking to anyone or anything and he said no and actually an issue we used to have at the beginning got cleared up unprovoked so i was happy. He said on saturday when we spoke about communication and stuff that he will try his best and he sounded genuine. I even gave him a cop out to cancel some plans we were trying to make because since he’s been so busy we’ve been trying to plan some stuff but it doesn’t align so i asked him if he wanted to just cancel it and he asked if cancelling it is something i wanna do and i said obviously no but i get if we can’t and he said then no we’ll do it cause he wants to but he’s one of those guys who he wants to pay for eveything so he doesn’t believe in going 50/50 cause he sees a mans role as the provider (which i don’t complain cause ik that’s his culture) But yea so that was saturday so 4 days ago and today i tried to call and it said “announcement 803” and when i texted him on snap since we talk there a lot and he said it’s cause his phone plan wasn’t renewed so he doesn’t get calls (so *** he didn’t get to pay the bill) and we talked about how we we’re doing and all that and i told him i wanted to see him and he said “he doesn’t know when he can but he will try to free up time” so i was cool with it. But idk i guess my thing is am i being impatient with him because i want to hear from him everyday and he’s just busy with work so i don’t hear from him everyday and stuff? or am i being a *** cause i keep pushing for it knowing he’s trying his best. Cause my logic is he’s busy working not going about doing nothing, but idk. I needed to get this off my head.
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