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Low intimacy time
Relationship Stress / by helpfulAvocado3412
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 March 18th, 2025
...See more I am with my girlfriend for 3 years and she is the most kind and supportive person I have ever met. But she is also very quiet, calm and introverted. I noticed that she doesn’t feel much sexual drive with me. I asked about it, and she said she didn’t think about this much. I asked whether she finds me attractive and she said yes. But as time went on, I find this low drive is getting lower. Getting intimacy time together is probably lowest on her priority list. She is probably fine to not have it at all, even not me asking. I kept feeling “unwanted”. It also affected my self esteem. I tried to hold it in because I don’t want to pressure her, it made me feel worse. She does care about me and look after me in life. Having said that, I did 90% cooking including when I got sick. It made me feel upset because I felt she cannot look after my need (sex and food). She looks after me like looking after a plant or a piece of furniture…i appreciate it really. Otherwise, I won’t be feeling this dilemma. I have been thinking recently whether we should break up. It is not her fault that she doesn’t want me. But I cannot get rid of this bitter feeling inside me.
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