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I'm gonna break up with him tomorrow
Relationship Stress / by helpmeouttt
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 March 3rd, 2017
...See more I've been with my boyfriend for over 6 years. We've had problems for so long, the relationship was never perfect even from the start. For the last few years I've hads serious doubts and now I'm just done. I don't wanna be with him anymore. I've known it for a long time but I've been too scared to break up. I'm a very lonely person, I don't have that much socialization outside of talking to him. I also have really low self-esteem, and I'm scared I'll never find someone else. I don't know what my life will look like without him. I have dealt with depression and I'm really scared it will come back full force once we break up. I'm scared I won't be able to handle it. Just the thought of breaking up hurts. That's why I've been putting it off for months. But I know I have to do it. There are things about his personality that are just not good for me. He's not the kind of person I wanna be with. But I'm just so used to being with him. And I love him, despite all the problems. I've already made up my mind about the relationship, but the actual act of breaking up is so hard. I don't know what to say to him. I don't want to hurt him. And since I know it's going to hurt a lot, I keep not doing it. There have been many times I've wanted to say it but I chickened out. I might not do it tomorrow even though I really want to. I don't know how to handle it. I wish I could do it with a text or online but I promised myself to do it face to face, since I think that's fair considering how long we've been together. I just need help. How do I say it? When do I say it? What do I do afterwards? How do I survive this? Thank you for listening.
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