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hopelessromantic2000
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Boyfriend is pushing me away
Relationship Stress / by hopelessromantic2000
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 September 25th, 2021
...See more My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months now. He is in the military and recently got stationed a little further away (only 4 hours), but he is in the middle of nowhere. He is a very social person and needs to always be doing something, but being out there has cause him to be very depressed. He told me how he was feeling and said that he just needs some space and time to think which I have been giving him because I know it is important for him to get better. He then said that he still loves me, but he’s not sure if he can live with some of my characteristics. Those characteristics were tiny things that I have been working on because I know it will make me happier if I fix them and not just because I want to change for him. Those characteristics had never bothered him before and he knew I was working through them. He also brought this up all of a sudden even though we were completely good a few days before that. I believe his depression has just hit him very hard and he’s trying to push me away, but I don’t know what to do. I don’t want to lose him and I am still giving him that space to think, but it’s also confusing because I don’t know where his head is at. He hasn’t wanted to call, facetime, or visit each other because he says he needs space to think right now and I believe it’s too overwhelming for him with his depression and how busy he is at work. I gave him space with no communication for three days and all of a sudden he texted me to check up and we were talking and joking around like normal. Then the next day, no texts again. I’m trying to be there for him and I will continue to do so, but in the end I don’t want him to give up on us so easily and push me away because we both always said how great we were together and how much we loved each other and wanted to spend our lives together. I don’t know what to do from here to prevent that from ending. Any advice would be great. In the end, I know I’m going to stick with him as long as he lets me and hope we can push through this together, but I also know there’s only so much I can do.
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