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...See more I'm a gay male whose developed a huge crush on my straight best friend. It happened at the end of January after some comments my friends had made. They insinuated that he may have feelings for me because he volunteers to pay for things all the time, even though I always pay him back, and because we spend alot of time together. I explained to them that he is 100% straight. I mean he had been with his ex girlfriend for over 8 years and they had a son together. He even made the comment when I came out to him that he didn't understand how I could be attracted to guys, but that it didn't matter to him. But they stated a straight man doesn't act like he does to a gay man. I tried to shake off their comments, but it's been bothering me ever since. Now I can't stop thinking about him, to the point where I'm obsessing over him. When we go to bars and he talks to other people, I get jealous. Everyday when I log into Facebook, I always check to see if he's active. I also get mad when I see him commenting on other people's posts. Although he is attractive, I feel like I fell in love with his personality. He's one of the most kindest, caring guys I've ever met. He's always there for me and knows when something is wrong. He always comes to me for advice or just someone to talk to. We just look out for one another like family. It makes me feel so good and I can honestly say I've never had a friendship like this with a guy, straight or gay. But the problem is he's straight and I'm gay. Nothing is ever gonna come from this except us being best friends and I had told myself this from the moment I met him. But ever since my friends comments, I just can't accept it and move on. I really don't know what to do at this point. I will eventually talk to him about this, but he already kinda knows I had a crush on him because I had mentioned it before, but it was never to this level. Has anyone else ever been through something like this. If so, what did you do? I refuse to completely stop talking to him as it would kill me worse than I'm feeling right now. I don't have many friends and he's important to me.

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