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AITA?
35 & Over Community / by independentJar9224
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 August 21st, 2025
...See more So, for some background context, my partner and I currently live with his parents. I don't really do the whole parent thing because I was betrayed by mine. One being, I find that any issues usually end up with him getting one or both of his parents involved, and it ends up with some form of a triangulation. I don't stand for it, and have asked that he not try to make our relationship stuff a community issue getting his parents involved. So, today there was an issue over hair bring left in the shower trap and I'm 100% sure that the bulk of it was not mine, so I left it--only to hear about it after my partner's dad got in the shower and then came and made a point about it. He is hard of hearing, so didn't hear me ask what color it was (because it's his color) and he just walked off and said I should pass the message around. After a while, I went and shared it with my partner what had happened, and he kind of barked back at me that he'd heard it 3 times now and was sick of hearing about it, and things got a bit escalated. He started involving his mom to back up things he was saying, and with her standing there, I again spoke up and said I didn't appreciate him bringing up things that I was trying to communicate to him up with other people and making our  conversations a community issue. Now I'm being abused of starting issues, and just a bit ago when I said I was going to start relaxing, he came and laid down next to me expecting to turn on a show that he's into, and after about 15 minutes of doing my own thing I finally said I wasn't in the mood for the show, because he wasn't going to get to be an a*****le for free, and again I was accused of starting things just because I had anything at all to say about the encounter with his dad over him leaving his own hair in the drain trap. AITA for setting those boundaries?
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