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I am the official side chick. Help
Relationship Stress / by intellectualPond2258
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 October 28th, 2015
...See more I am seeking advice on what to do. I am going to sound like a broken record, but I want to believe my situation is different. I started dating this guy 10 months ago. It was suppose to be a hook up. No strings attached, but we had chemistry. More than just sex. Friendship. I found out he was "separated" a couple months in. Then I found out he was still living with and they had three kids. He kept telling me they are separating. blah blah blah. I decided to end it but just the sexual part. Our friendship chemistry is amazing. We got brutally honest with each other. He isnt going to leave his wife, but still wants me in his life. When he fights with his wife, I give him advice on how to fix it. When i struggle with guys I date, he is there for me. And yes, on occasion, we sext and talk dirty. We had great sex. I can't help it, but honestly, the friendship is more important. He has become my best friend. My secret best friend. Anyway, so 10 months later, we have a good thing going. We talk every day. We miss each other. We talk about his kids. We talk about my day. We sext. We skype. I am the official side chick. I want to believe my situation is different. I don't want him to leave his wife for me because I could never trust him. I still date other guys. We talk about the future every now and than. I know I need to end this. As much as I want to believe our friendship is important, I know its wrong, but our chemistry and connection is so hard to shake. And yes, I know I can't have a real relationship with someone else. How do I move on from him when I don't want to?
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