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intuitiveCat4326
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Extreme gaslighting, controlling ?
Relationship Stress / by intuitiveCat4326
Last post
 July 27th, 2022
...See more Hi guys, I’ve been married for around 2 years and my husband thinks that I cannot and should not be upset about anything. He feels that I have no problems so I should not cry or be mad at anything. He doesn’t even ask what upsets me. he also doesn’t let me go out alone by cabs cause he says that he should protect me from this evil world. When I ask why can’t I go out but your sister can he says that cause I’m married I should obey husbands words. he also expects me to mingle with his family 24x7 and completely accept them like as if I’ve married them. He also wants me to obey, respect and tolerate them even when they are on the wrong side. sometimes they gang up against me and start fighting with me and blow things out of proportion. All during which he’s never on my side. Once his own family has told sorry to me that they’ve blown things out of proportion for a tiny issue. he for a period of a year told me that since I’m not close to his family or keeping him happy he wouldn’t take me out. But neither wants me to go out by myself. His parents and feminist unmarried sister knows this and asks me to abide by my husbands rules. Basically I have adjusted for 2 years and I don’t have much couple time or the intimacy, he doesn’t cuddle me when I love being cuddled and he knows it. I yearn for it every single night he also swears at me saying that I’m a bit ch and I should be rap ed during intense arguments but when I retaliate saying that your sis is so and so(same terms he used on me) he gets very angry and either hits me or gets extremely upset. the worse thing is he’s telling me that I’m crazy cause I verbally abused his family after he verbally abused me and also physically abused me. And no matter what he does I should not bring his fam into the argument can someone please tell me is this normal ? Am I on the wrong because if I am, I’m willing to correct it. Thankyou to whoever is replying to this, much appreciated. Thankyou for your time
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