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jbm81
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Wanting to make it offical, but he doesn’t yet...
Relationship Stress / by jbm81
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 August 25th, 2021
...See more Hello! I have been talking to this guy for over three months now, and we are still in the “talking and getting to know each other” phase. I want to take things to the next level and want to be labeled as boyfriend/girlfriend, but he is really hesitant on doing so. Here’s some background… I am a 20 year old female, and the guy I am talking to is 25. We both are in college, and we both work. On weekends, however, we both have off days. Once or twice a week we’ll go on dates, and every now and then I’ll go to his place at night. Whenever the weekend is approaching, I ask if he’d like to go on a date to spend some time together, but he’s always busy or just suggests the following week. In the beginning he was opening to a relationship one day, but I wanted to wait because I had just gotten out of a relationship. He was completely fine with that. I really like him and I know he likes me, he’s even said that he loved me, but I don’t know if right now is the right time for me to say it back, or if I even love him; It feels too soon. We’ve had talks about making it official and he says that he wants to wait. We have also talked about how busy his schedule is because we rarely even get to go out twice a month—but he is constantly asking me to come over at night. He said he’ll make more time for me but that has yet to happen. I understand that he gave me the time I needed in the beginning and that I need to do the same, but how are we supposed to get to know each other if he is too busy for dates at least ever other week. I also just don’t understand how he can say that he loves me but doesn’t want to be official. Recently I have been thinking that maybe he does want to be together, but doesn’t want the responsibility of doing boyfriend things…? I also know that if someone wants to, they'll do it... So if he genuinely wants to make time for me, he will right? (like instead if playing video games, he will try to fit me in his schedule?) Am I asking for too much or thinking about it too much?
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