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jill1022
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Breakup advice needed please!
Relationship Stress / by jill1022
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 December 30th, 2017
...See more Ill try to be as brief as possible. My girlfriend of 4 years and I recently broke up 3 weeks ago, and needless to say, Im pretty heartbroken. We had a rough couple of months - i was looking for a job and wasnt finding success and she was starting her last semester of college. Around the time I was looking for a job, I was diagnosed with cancer (this is my second time through the cancer ringer) but I decided to keep the diagnosis to myself, bc a) i was stressed enough and b) didnt want to add another layer of stress on my already seemingly stressed out gf. Things started to get even more tense with us, and she started to pull away from me (we are about 2 hours apart) which caused me to get even more needy. At the end of October she called me up and told me she needed space and a chance to miss me, and over the next 10 days, started to systematically remove me from her social media. I kind of went a little nuts and texted her friends and this all culminated in her breaking up with me citing that I stopped being the person she wanted to spend the rest of her life with. She and I havent spoken in 3 weeks. Last week, I also found out that Ive been having recurring TIAs or ministries over the the last 6 months, which affected my right frontal lobe and could account for my irrational behavior. my question is - how do I rectify this? Shes the love of my life and I feel like I need to explain everything to her. Last week a mutual friend told her I had cancer and she responded with anger against me more than compassion. She seems determined to vilify me every chance that she gets. How do I give her space but also let her know that the me she was with the last few months wasnt me—it was all these health issues that are plaguing me?
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