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ju1220
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Please Help Me I'm Devastated
Depression Support / by ju1220
Last post
 February 11th, 2018
...See more My best friend of four years and I are no longer friends anymore. We are both 17 and in our final year of highschool. We were generally quite negative and pessimistic people but we "bonded" I guess through dark humour and such. We were absolutely inseparable throughout almost all of highschool, our personalities complimented eachother and we just always got along and had so much fun together (for the most part). However, lately I've been in a pretty bad mental state and she basically sent me a super long facebook message earlier today about how she doesn't want to be friends anymore bc I've been affecting her mental state. Of course I'm extremely heartbroken to have to part ways with my absolute best friend, but if it was best for her, I'd of course want her to be happy. So I agreed and said my goodbyes and that I hope she's able to grow into the wonderful person I know she can be. THEN, she says something along the lines of "wow, I thought you'd fight for our friendship, glad to know how much you really cared..." and starts getting angry at how I "didn't care about our friendship" (I don't fully remember, I deleted the messages). Like what the hell ??? I agreed to part ways because I wanted her to be happy, and then two seconds later she hits me with a "blah blah blah you never cared" what the shit ? That doesn't make any sense. I am heartbroken. She was my soulmate. She wants to completely break off the friendship AND blame it on me for "not fighting for it"? That's messed up. I'm an extreme mix of angry and sad right now. I don't know what to do. I'm devastated.
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Struggling to move on, please read
Relationship Stress / by ju1220
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 December 30th, 2017
...See more My ex (17F) and I (17F) ended a short term relationship about 8 months ago. She was the one who broke it off but we still decided to remain friends and attempted to keep in contact immediately post-breakup, which of course was a bad idea. We ended up fighting often and officially kicked ourselves out of eachother's lives about a month post-breakup with the intention of never speaking again. However, we ran into eachother at an event over the summer and agreed to look past everything that happened and decided to become "friends" again. Recently we've been talking quite often and it's making me miss her a lot. I'm completely fine with just being her friend, but I can't help but think about the "what if's". It makes me feel extremely pathetic that I still have feelings for her and I know that I'm not being a good "friend" if I just want to try and rekindle our relationship, but I'm also getting some mixed messages from her (not exactly flirting, but she's said some questionable things). I'm not sure if I should even bother with the concept of getting back together. She meant a lot to me and I've never been good at handling breakups. All I want to do is to be able to know for sure whether she's even considered the idea of getting back together, since we've been talking a lot for people who had a rocky breakup. Sorry that this is so much dumb teenage relationship bs, but I just needed to put this out there.
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Relationship Stress / by ju1220
Last post
 November 16th, 2017
...See more My ex (17F) and I (17F) went through a pretty nasty breakup about 6 months ago after being in a relationship for 3 months (and being friends for 6 months before we dated as well). We reconciled over the summer but still only talked as friends on occasion. Recently though (over the past week or so), we have been talking a few times a day almost every day. We both equally initiate conversations, there has been a bit of reminiscing on good times we had, and she even asked to hang out with some friends on the weekend (which I had to decline as I'm busy that day). We have not talked in depth about the breakup though. What does this mean? We've not talked this often since before we broke up.
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