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kitkatpatty
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Mother issues
Family & Caregivers / by kitkatpatty
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 May 9th, 2021
...See more I don’t feel like I have a bond with my mother. She worked a lot in my very early years and I was mainly around caretakers. It’s Mother’s Day and all I can say is I bought her flowers but I have work today. I like to be a lone a lot which bothers her because she feels like I’m avoiding her, plus with the shifts I have she thinks I am. I spent time with her the other day for like 4-5 hours and the next she says that I’m avoiding her and hiding in my room when all I am is tired from work at the end of the day and want some alone time. I don’t really care for the way she feels because it’s normally out of proportion. I only stay in her house so I can finish college, have a car, and then hopefully move out soon after I graduate. I don’t really feel a connection to the rest of my family either although behind the scenes they play a big part in my being able to go to college and succeed. I understand that but still I feel no bonds. She says that if I call them more and talk to them then I’ll get a bond before it’s too late but I don’t see how calling them will create a bond. They live 12 hours away from us so it’s not like a visit is an easy thing to do. I’m just ready to get out of here and start my own life. I don’t need the stress of my mother making me feel bad to be constantly on my shoulders. I feel like she forces me into a box I don’t want to be in. I don’t feel like where she is, is my home, it’s more like a place I’m staying that I have to be cordial with her until I get out.
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