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...See more Hi there. For a while now i have been struggling to connect with people, finding it hard to open up and also not feeling understood. Even when i spent time with people that i have always felt close too, I feel lonely when being around them. I think that part of this is a result of a big shift in a friendship i have. My best friend started dating a guy i had a crush on, which i had told her all about. She was supportive of my feelings, when he suddenly texted me asking if it was okay if he and her met. She reassured me it was just as friends and i didn't mind, as he had also become good friends with other close people around me. A week later i found out they had been texting eachother for months and developed feelings for eachother and were basically in a relationship. I was mad. I had trusted her with my feelings. But i was also sad. Sad, that she couldn't trust me enough to open up and tell me how she felt. I know it was difficult for her aswell, she didn't want to feel that way towards him because she knew she would only hurt me. But i do blame her for never telling me about it and that i had to find out over another friend. Since then i have trouble opening up to people. Talking about my feelings feels like whatever i say, i am not heard. I also feel anxious when friends i introduced to eachother start hanging out without me. On one side i am happy i could introduce these two, because i know both are lovely people, on the other side i feel like i am being replaced. It's just tough to see how this (ex)-best friend of mine is now hanging out with all these friends i had made, and me not spending time with these people, knowing that one year ago i had the best time of my life with these guys. What is so confusing is that somehow i want to keep the friendship with her, on the other hand i feel hurt and have suffered mentaly because of this stressing situation. We did stand by each others side for 10 years... Do you have any tips on what i should do? (i have booked a session with a therapist)

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