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lavenderHickory6033
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Relationship Stress / by lavenderHickory6033
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 January 16th, 2020
...See more I met my ex 7 yrs ago online but we both had a lot going on so we just ended up becoming friends. We would talk all the time and I would tell him about the relationships and guys I was dating and he would give me relationship advice as well as life advice. We became very close. At some point our friendship turned physical and we were in this weird friends with benefits things. We stopped that after a while because we both got into pretty serious relationship but we still talked constantly. After a few years we were both single and he told me he loved me and we stated to become physical again. By this time we were in a relationship but not really in a relationship. After a year or so I told him I didn't want to be in this I between thing anymore so he needed to either decide to be with me or we'd just be friends. He said he couldn't just stop talking to the girl he was talking to bc he didn't want to hurt her. We didn't talk for a few weeks after that but then we decided to try and work on being together. We finally got into a relationship ship but it was long distance because he got deployed. Things didn't last long and he broke up with me and didn't talk to me for months. His nephew passed away and he came home on leave and ending up staying with me for a month. While he was there he was saying we still had a connection and that he wanted to do all these things together when he got back home. A few days before he left we got into a huge argument and he packed all his stuff and left. We got into an argument because I told him I was never a priority to him and he said he rather hang out with other ppl because I'm boring. After that we didn't talk for months until I told him I was moving. He finally came back l home from his deployment the same week I was moving but he didn't even bother to tell me before hand. We started talking a little more after that but he was the one that always reached out. He continued to tell me he missed me and loved me. I decided we should go on a trip for Christmas and he agreed. While he was packing I saw a paper saying he was going on a cruise so I asked with who. He refused to tell me. I thought it was so weird bc we have always been open when we were seeing other ppl. We still enjoyed our trip and the entire time he was saying he loved me and all that but we were in Vegas and he was drunk most of the time. After the trip I decided I didn't want to talk to him anymore bc it hurt knowing his actions didn't match his words. I called to tell him and he said the answer is no. He wasn't going to let me not talk to him but we could talk later because his nephew was with him. I haven't heard from him in a week. I love him more than I've ever loved anyone else and sometimes I want to let go but other times I can't. He's been my best friend and the person that believed in me and helped me achieve all my career goals and life goals hid the past 7 years. I can't imagine him not being a part of my life but I also can't watch him be with other people while his telling me he loves me and is still in love with me. He had said he expects me to find someone better than him and that the girls he talks to are just temporary. I don't know what to do or how to feel anymore.
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