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Dealing with a man going through a divorce.
Relationship Stress / by lavenderSquare8287
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 August 31st, 2022
...See more Hey guys.... I've been looking and talking to a couple of listeners but I thought to share this message.... to get collective input. I'm dating a married man.... he's now going through a divorce... and has distanced himself from me.... when we met... I knew he was marri3d and I didn't want to be with him.... then he told me he wants me to be his wife... he told his friends and family about me so I felt it was serious because his mother knows me and welcomed me. But now that his wife served him divorce papers.... he's been different ... he doesn't want to talk to me... he doesn't pick my calls... he doesn't say I love you... he doesn't want to spend time with me... he he doesn't want to sleep with me.... and belive me it was never an issue hebuse to be allover me.... until July is when things changed.... I met him in December.... he was just perfect.... he respected me n cared about me.... he's 11 years older than me.... but now he treats me so bad he invalidates my feelings.... he doesn't care how his actions affect me.... before he told me his wife is serving him divorce papers he would lie to me that he isbjustvstressed because of work.... I had to drive the truth out of him ... the thing is you want me to be your wife but you can't even communicate... n recently he told me not to talk about his family.... it's like I'm his enemy.... I told him I'm just trying to cheer him up he said I can't do anything to cheer him up.... so in August we took a week break... then when the week break was over we tried rekindling things or rsther I tried... but he was still distancing himself from me .... he couldn't even say goodnight or goodmorning he started making me feel like I have to beg for the simple things in my relationship ..... then we took another week break.... and he tried.... he changed abit... he started telling me he loves me again n would talk to me sometimes but it's like he was just doing it for the sake of doimg it... now here we are taking yet another break and thus time longer... he said we should speak on September 11th.... but my thing is how sure am I thus break will be different from the other breaks.... how many breaks tikk he gets back to normal and stops treating me like crap.... he is 36byears old and acting like a child... he blatantlytold his wife that if having a gf is a crime.... she should take him to court then she responded by saying she wants a divorce now he's treating me like crap because she's serving him divorce papers... are you kidding Me? I feel like he doesn't know what he wants... I told him to break up with me and he refused.... he told me to stop threatening him to leave me and if I continue threatening him he will surely leave.... and guess what he did break up with me.... then I told him that very day to bring my stuff thats in his apartment... he refused and said he wants to work on us.... but the thing is we don't even have things to work on... he's the one who has things to work on... he brought th3 baggage to the relationship... n he can't even take accountability.... the other day I told him i love him even though I knew we were on a break... he told me whats the point of saying he loves me too when we are on a break.. so it's like what the hell. whenI met this guy everything was perfect but now that he is getting a divorce.... everything is falling apart.... and it's because of him... he chose not to communicate and has been ha doing the situation poorly by distancing himself from me and neglecting my feelings.... I love him but I feel as though I can't go on like this any longer.... he is making me have to beg him for the little things. ..dont get me wrong I know divorce is hard on him too but we both know there's consequences to every action.... why is he now acting like a child. I feel like I've invested so much in this relationship I don't want to leave him but at the same time I can't take this anymore.
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