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my boyfriend broke up with me, and i want him to love me again.
Relationship Stress / by lightTurtle8781
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 June 28th, 2023
...See more so basically my boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me, and i know it doesn't seem like a really long time, and we may be young, but that doesnt matter to me. i really love him, and ever since i met him i have. hes the most important person to me and i would give anything for him. he broke up with me because he "naturally lost feelings". yesterday we talked about everything (its been around 3 weeks since the break up) and he said that a lot of the times i was manipulative, or i did things he never really liked. I realized all the things i did in the relationship, and i can honestly say that i did most everything he mentioned, and i feel terrible about it. i was raised in a toxic household, where i was taught things like that were normal. i would like to blame it on my trauma, but i dont think that can "cover" for everything i did. i would start arguments and fights over little (or not so little) things that upset me, because i couldnt find a healthy way to express my emotions. i would drain him mentally and physically because of my actions, and it started to show. i had noticed that more towards the last month or two that we were dating, and i had wanted to make a change. I started therapy a week or two before he broke up with me, and it was going to be a surprise for him. I get that i wasnt near perfect, and neither was he, but i tried, and i shouldve tried harder. towards the end of the relationship, i put in my all, and he didnt put hardly anything in, which hurt me a lot. i definitely still have feelings for him, as he was my first love, the boy who took all my innocence, and the boy who made me feel like somebody. He told me that if the feelings come back, maybe we could try again. he definitely deserves better, but i cant imagine seeing him with anyone else, so im going to be better. and i want to know how i could do that. I want to know how to handle my feelings healthily, and just have an overall healthy relationship. i want him to see how much better i am doing, and i want him to reconsider. i know it might not be easy, but i am willing to do anything for this boy. and even if he never reconsiders, i will keep trying. can someone please give me advice for a healthy relationship? like how to deal with overwhelming emotions, issues that arise in the relationship, how to talk about whats upsetting us without starting an argument, etc.
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