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Number of ratings9 Number of reviews6 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish, Malayalam Listener sinceJan 12, 2022 Last activein last week GenderFemale PathStep 22 People helped128 Chats250 Group support chats0 Listener group chats0 Forum posts21 Forum upvotes72
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First it hurts you, then it changes you.

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Revisiting old wounds pushes the belief of love
Relationship Stress / by lovelyPower9238
Last post
 June 10th
...See more The word love feels so serene unless and until you look into wounds of heart caused by many people who claims they love you. While I was a teenager, I dreamt of a happy family. Something that was completely devoid in my household. Bought up in an abusive family, I never got to experience love. I fell in love 3 times in my 25 years journey and If someone asked me what did I gain , it would be to expect pain and to be wiser. If I look into all three, I would never say that they didn't love me . They did. In their own way. Selfish yet sweet. Everything felt like looking through a rose tinted glasses, unless you realise that the person you are loving is not the real them, but the version they customised themselves for you so that you would fall in love. Maybe not faster but definitely harder. Too deep that you feel that you are plunged deeper into a black hole.How profoundly Elvis presley sung those words " Wise men say only fools rush in". It is not love that is scary but the feeling that once It gets deeper ,it would be difficult to get out of it.
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Self love
Relationship Stress / by lovelyPower9238
Last post
 April 10th
...See more Few days back, I felt I was the most patient woman. I cared too much about outcome and people. Especially those people who really mattered to me. A small change in them ,i would feel so emotional. I would feel even worse when they stop recognising me. I would run towards them to seek validation and constantly put efforts to mend the bonds which meant everything to me. I lost myself pleasing others, begging others and most importantly convincing and explaining them about my worth and my love for them. I lost value until I look myself into the mirror and cried at myself. " This is not how I supposed to be. " Until now . I realise life is too short. I have slowly shut down people. I have slowly realised that self love isn't selfish. People come back into our life or wouldn't let go because of the benefits you come up with. Not respecting your individuality. The more I pull towards myself, the more I began to lose people. Which is a good thing. Because a snake sheds its old skin to create room for better. I care extremely less about outcome. Engage in conversations when needed. And direct energy into yourself. Trust me, nobody knows the depth of your suffering or happiness other than you. People will come and go. The earth would remain same, but the season keeps on changing. Some seasons blooms you and other season restricts your growth. Most people you meet, they don't truly care about you. They just care more about how you make them feel , what they can get from you or whether they still have access in your life. The more unhealthy your surrounding is, the more it reflects your body. The biggest loss is not losing people but losing yourself. Pouring everything into those where they don't wanna grow with you. There are people who would water your plants daily and there are some people who would just pluck flowers and there are some people who would water only when your plants are dying. Know the differences.
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A question to all men.
Relationship Stress / by lovelyPower9238
Last post
 May 1st, 2025
...See more A question to be answered honestly to all.men. Can you be in a relationship where your woman cannot give you deeper physical intimacy( you know what I meant) for a year or two because she needs time to work on her physical traumas? Will you be able to withhold all you desires till that time she heals? Why or why not?
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What's one thing you dislike about yourself and wishes to improve
General Support / by lovelyPower9238
Last post
 February 14th, 2025
...See more I believe according to me , I wishes to improve my anger and sensitivity. What about yours?
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Faith
Religion & Spirituality / by lovelyPower9238
Last post
 August 16th, 2025
...See more How has faith in God changed your life?
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What kind of partner do you prefer
Relationship Stress / by lovelyPower9238
Last post
 January 3rd, 2025
...See more I remember when I grew up, i realise choosing partner is like similar to shopping products in online. You have millions of choices, millions of variety and even replacements. In a world of replacements,real love is lost. I remember sitting beside my grandmother while I was small, she told me that real love feels home. You may sleep in different houses but nothing compares to your cozy bed. Most people ,what i see is tired of fighting and goes to someone they feel thrilled. Most people say to me that you are born in wrong generations. In the world of situations hips, casual hookups, fwbs or one night stand , I prefer someone who opens door for me, cooks me food when I am sick and considers me and my children as home, where God should be first and foremost. I have seen lot of people who has three or four partners and are never satisfied or have multiple hookups but feel lost. Loyalty is out of question. What I have seen most is that these people do have amazing spouse who have flaws just like them, and yet they would be in sites . That's how depressing our world is. People celebrate anniversary every single year but they are unhappy in their real life. I think love is supposed to make you feel grow. Not break your spirits.
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New year:new beginning
Relationship Stress / by lovelyPower9238
Last post
 January 2nd, 2025
...See more Wishing you a very happy new year to all members and listeners of 7cups. 2024 has taught me to be strong, wise and moreover letting go of the things that was never meant for me to begin with. It has taught me to accept the reality and growing from the ashes. Every person has faced some or the other kind of pain in their life in 2024. People suffered depression ,anxiety ,loneliness and learnt brutal truths about life. I wanted to share that life never stops for anyone. Let's create beautiful memories in 2025 without carrying any emotional baggage from 2024 . Convey my wishes to family and friends.. Lots of love ❤️
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Relationship
Relationship Stress / by lovelyPower9238
Last post
 December 31st, 2024
...See more I remember my first heartbreak three years ago. I remember crying for hours in the washroom , praying to God to ease my pain , even though it was hardly one year relationship . I have an habit of holding on for too long ,hoping that maybe my love could save our relationship and change him to be more focused on our relationship as it is in rocks. Sometimes I would eat so much to a point that all my emotional voidness is temporarily filled. Sometimes I would just sleep beside the phone ,hoping to get a text from him. My hopes were in vain. The thing is when you love someone, no matter what were you doing was right, it would never be right for a person who never values you. My relationship was a turning point to grow from my pain and to prioritise myself. I remember three years ago, this month, I was questioning myself, what did I do, God, for him to ignore me, treat me worse than a stranger and make me feel like a doormat. I remember crying in the church so many times ,because I don't wanna burden my mom with the ongoing emotional turbulence I was facing. I did communicated to my close friend but I just feel I don't wanna burden her with my trigger. I felt so depressed to a point I stopped studying. I looked at the mirror ,cried for hours and questioned myself " what was something in me that made him not love me". I remember being the best version for him but he just shattered my spirits. It took three years of grief to understand that people who truly care for you, will always be there behind your back.
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