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lovingBeach9964
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PathStep 11 Compassion hearts35 Forum posts10 Forum upvotes10 Current upvotes10 Age GroupAdult Last activeJuly, 2022 Member sinceOctober 11, 2021
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How do I give him criticism?
Relationship Stress / by lovingBeach9964
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 December 31st, 2021
...See more So my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months now. He’s my first real boyfriend. Lately i’ve been it a tough place mentally and I find it hard to talk to him about it. If i tell him he tends to try to solve things rather than just comfort and support me which is what I feel I need in those times. We are very different and I know he’s just doing what he thinks will help - because if he were in my shoes that’s what he’d want from me. But I would much rather just have the support. I’m going to talk to him about how i’m feeling but I just want to make sure I do it in a way that doesn’t come off as ungrateful or rude.
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Wanted to let go of problems
Journals & Diaries / by lovingBeach9964
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 November 4th, 2021
...See more TW in advance im probably going to talk about domestic violence, self image, relationships, etc. anybody is welcome to comment domes violence So lately i’ve been feeling like everything is trapping me so i wanted to just tell someone everything i’m feeling. i live in a home with an abusive dad. i’ve been dealing with this since i was born (fighting with my mom for like 20 years). until recently it’s been manageable. about a year ago i started having panic attacks late at night. that was really scary. it became less frequent for a while but now they seem to be coming back. moving a few weeks ago we also moved to another country. i had about a month advance notice, if that. i moved a lot as a kid and i really didn’t want to leave my friends because i had never had friends that lasted that long. (6 years) we aren’t gone forever, just about a year, but i’m staying in school online so i have no way of making new friends. i’m worried that being stuck in the house with my parents constantly fighting is going to make me go crazy. my friends were my support and my escape and now they’re gone. online school online school has also been really hard. most students are back in person so being online i feel left out. half the teachers don’t even pay attention to the online students. Body image also i think i have really bad body image. i’m pretty tall but i see myself as overweight. compared to my friends i feel huge. we go to the gym sometimes and some of them say stuff like “omg i’m so fat” or “oh thank god i have a thigh gap in these shorts” and it ruins my day. i know they aren’t trying to make me feel bad obviously but it’s not a good feeling when someone smaller than you calls themselves fat. one time my dad called me fat too. he doesn’t have a filter. he just says without thinking and never apologizes. Relationships i have a long distance relationship as well. we’ve been dating for almost 5 months now. i trust him with all this stuff and i tell him about it but more often than not he doesn’t know how to make me feel better. he usually ends up saying something like “oh well other people have it worse so you shouldn’t complain. you have it good” which obviously makes me feel guilty for feeling this way. I also feel like I have trouble making lasting healthy relationships. I love my boyfriend but there’s always like a little voice in my head that tells me that he’s trying to hurt me or that i’m not good enough for him and it makes me want to distance myself. btw he’s never done anything to ever make me believe he’d actually want to hurt me.
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Just want to get it off my chest…
Trauma Support / by lovingBeach9964
Last post
 October 15th, 2021
...See more TW Im 16 almost 17 and i live with both my parents and my brother. As long as i can remember they’ve been fighting (over 20 years actually). i don’t remember as a child if things ever got physical between them but recently things have been getting worse. my dad seems to get upset over the smallest things, blames my mom, then goes crazy for sometimes 2-3 days. it happens a lot in the middle of the night too. he’ll wake up from a bad dream and take it out on my mom for doing nothing and it wakes everyone up. it usually isn’t right in front of me but i vividly remember one time a couple years ago when we were in a hotel he went crazy, hit her, broke jewelry i bought her, etc. i remember feeling frozen like i wanted to help but couldn’t. my dad was arrested once bought my mom let him back into our home and everything seemed to get worse because of it. lately he’s even started lashing out at my brother and I. i don’t want the family to be broken up and i still love my dad, but sometimes i wish they would just get a divorce. anyways, if you’ve read this far, thank you for listening. if u have any comments i’d love to hear them.
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