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lovingBirch549
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PathStep 4 Compassion hearts83 Forum posts49 Forum upvotes58 Current upvotes58 Age GroupAdult Last activeApril, 2025 Member sinceJanuary 24, 2016
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Enforcing boundaries
Relationship Stress / by lovingBirch549
Last post
 April 14th, 2025
...See more Hi Guys. I have been someone that is anxious and therefore has a previous of people pleasing, especially in relationships. I have entered the healthiest relationship and about 6 months in. He’s amazing. But like myself, he has flaws as well as I. One boundary I have made clear is that when we are apart of he could check in every now and then I would feel reassured. I want to respect he isn’t on his phone and is busy enjoying himself so I have asked him to meet in the middle. This pattern keeps happening, especially if he is out with the lads and it feels like he reverts back to before he entered a relationship. We had a conversation about this last night where we I explain I wasn’t happy with this pattern and told him how it made me feel. I also ensured I understood his point of view too, asking if we can come to a compromise so that boundary’s aren’t crossed and we’re respecting each other. I’m not used to exerting boundaries in fear they take off and leave so I still feel uneasy about this. I love him being independent and seeing his friends, encourage it actually. I even asked him if he wanted to not check in and speak the next day just so I knew what the expectations were but he said he would and then didn’t go through with what he said. He admits it’s something he’s not good at and wants to work on it. Real communication and setting boundaries isn’t easy.
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Does anyone else experience this?
Relationship Stress / by lovingBirch549
Last post
 March 27th, 2025
...See more did anyone in their relationship have a challenge navigating things like 5-6 months in..is this normal?
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Can anyone else relate?
Relationship Stress / by lovingBirch549
Last post
 March 13th, 2025
...See more I have recently embarked on my first commited relationship and were a couple months in. All is going very well and we are both very happy. That said, these last couple of weeks I’ve been getting more irritable than usual over the smallest of things..example being me getting slightly annoyed for him leaving his clothes everywhere. A whole load of little things that seem to really get my back up. I have openly communicated this and he has listened and took this on board and although still does these things occasionally I can see he’s actively thinking more about things..is it normal to have this stage in a relationship. I am happy and I feel like maybe is it me trying to sabotage this? Or is this normal within relationships? I’m struggling to navigate this and with autism that doesn’t really help. Feel very alone with this other than my partner and would really like to hear if anyone has similar experiences?
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Does anyone else feel this way?
Eating Disorder Support / by lovingBirch549
Last post
 November 26th, 2024
...See more hey everyone. I have binge eating disorder. It’s mostly controlled but I can can triggered and often binge, especially in social situations and on takeaways. im always triggered about my looks and weight in a negative way, particularly when im talking to someone new or starting to date romantically? Does anyone else suffer from the thoughts of being too big for them to like me and not being enough? I’m asking as I have been to therapy and I’m working on it, as well as talking to friends and family, they just don’t understand. I hope someone else can relate.
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After the breakup
Relationship Stress / by lovingBirch549
Last post
 March 19th, 2024
...See more Hey everyone, I hope you had a good weekend. I am almost two months post break up..and although it was me that initiated the break up and it was definitely the right decision, I am also missing him an awful lot. My dreams are constantly about him and it’s very frustrating. My life’s very busy and I’m keeping myself occupied and I just can’t shake it, can anyone else relate?
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Loneliness
Depression Support / by lovingBirch549
Last post
 February 16th, 2024
...See more I’m so lonely. Therapy taught me to use the friends close to me and to talk to them and be honest on how I’m feeling. And that’s what I’ve done, but no one responds..no one knows what to say..there’s literally no one there to help me..I’m in such a lonely and sad place
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Break up
Relationship Stress / by lovingBirch549
Last post
 January 30th, 2024
...See more I broke up with my other half last week and now I feel that everyone’s life is moving along and mines just stopped. And now I just feel that my life is just stagnant and I just don’t really feel like carrying on. I know it sounds extreme but it’s just so lonely and sad..
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Can anyone relate?
Anxiety Support / by lovingBirch549
Last post
 January 23rd, 2024
...See more Does anyone relate to feeling so overwhelmed with life at the moment, with so many different things going on and so many big decisions to make. I just don’t know what direction to go in and everything seems too much right now. Can anyone relate?
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