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lovingBirch549
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PathStep 4 Compassion hearts74 Forum posts44 Forum upvotes51 Current upvotes51 Age GroupAdult Last activeMarch, 2024 Member sinceJanuary 24, 2016
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After the breakup
Relationship Stress / by lovingBirch549
Last post
 March 19th
...See more Hey everyone, I hope you had a good weekend. I am almost two months post break up..and although it was me that initiated the break up and it was definitely the right decision, I am also missing him an awful lot. My dreams are constantly about him and it’s very frustrating. My life’s very busy and I’m keeping myself occupied and I just can’t shake it, can anyone else relate?
Loneliness
Depression Support / by lovingBirch549
Last post
 February 16th
...See more I’m so lonely. Therapy taught me to use the friends close to me and to talk to them and be honest on how I’m feeling. And that’s what I’ve done, but no one responds..no one knows what to say..there’s literally no one there to help me..I’m in such a lonely and sad place
Break up
Relationship Stress / by lovingBirch549
Last post
 January 30th
...See more I broke up with my other half last week and now I feel that everyone’s life is moving along and mines just stopped. And now I just feel that my life is just stagnant and I just don’t really feel like carrying on. I know it sounds extreme but it’s just so lonely and sad..
Can anyone relate?
Anxiety Support / by lovingBirch549
Last post
 January 23rd
...See more Does anyone relate to feeling so overwhelmed with life at the moment, with so many different things going on and so many big decisions to make. I just don’t know what direction to go in and everything seems too much right now. Can anyone relate?
Advice on how to be better
Relationship Stress / by lovingBirch549
Last post
 January 14th
...See more Hey guys. I’ve been in a relationship now for 6 months and it’s been eye opening on just how much of myself is unhealed. With the help of therapy and self awareness this is improving. However the one thing I’m really trying to heal is my issues with abandonment. I’ve come on here to ask if anyone can relate or have any suggestions on the below statement. We’re technically long distance, so we usually see each other every weekend or every other weekend. What I have noticed is when I ask if he’s free and if he wants to meet up and he comes back with a suggestion, I sometimes get triggered. Like it’s not good enough almost but I don’t understand it. He says he will come see me on Sunday, instead of staying the weekend as he has plans. So in my head I understand and respect that, and yet still feel myself getting anxious and triggered. I want to be able to respect him having plans whilst also feeling like Im not being abandoned. Any advice on this? Has anyone been through this before? thanks:)
Advice Required
Relationship Stress / by lovingBirch549
Last post
 October 27th, 2023
...See more This is a bit more of a positive post then what I usually seek help for. I have decided I needed to open up to the guy I’m seeing a bit more. I said that me and him have been seeing each other a while now (a few months for context) and the next thing to figure out with us both is where we place ourselves in each others lives. I stated it wasn’t a convo about being official. I explained how I value him having a life outside of me and vice versa as I feel that’s important. I both value and respect that. But we both live away from each other and I feel that me and him need to see each other regularly to be able to develop a deeper connection and to figure out things such as becoming official. I asked him how he felt about the situation. he works nights so he wanted to respond the next day when he was in the right mindset which I respected. I have also asked him today if he’s happy to talk about it, however, he suggested talking about it at the weekend. Which again I respected as he’s not at work then so he’d have the mental capacity to discuss. since sending him this message we’ve been carrying on talking like we usually do. I feel like how he has responded is positive and even though we haven’t discussed the situation at hand specifically, I feel like if he didn’t feel the same he would of ended it or told me he wasn’t willing to discuss the matter when I sent the message originally. I’m trying not to overthink it and I feel quite positive. Does anyone agree or am I losing it? thanks again x
Another spiral
Relationship Stress / by lovingBirch549
Last post
 October 27th, 2023
...See more I’m sorry to post about similar things all the time but my therapist said it’s better out than in and sometimes just writing it helps. I had a really big meltdown on Friday. To the guy I’m seeing specifically as he had to cancel coming to see me. The circumstances weren’t his fault at all but I was honest with him and I told him I was upset and why. I do feel really bad for being so upset and irate but I was just so upset. trying to accept we have different love languages and ways of showing how we feel is very difficult..and I want to accept him for who he is..he’s not a texted he’s not on his phone a lot. I know he’s definitely not talking to anyone else so I’m not insecure in that sense but I just struggle with coming to terms with it. I just get so anxious that he isn’t that into me anymore bc I’m still learning to understand how he shows it. we are taking things slow but my relationship anxiety is just rearing it’s ugly head and I’m so scared that I have or am going to ruin things. Sorry to rant but had to say something bc it feels like I’m going to explode.
Spiralling
Relationship Stress / by lovingBirch549
Last post
 October 22nd, 2023
...See more I’m having a really big meltdown tonight. The guy I’m seeing was supposed to come and see me tonight, it’s a 2 hour drive to me and half way to mine, he had to turn back bc of the weather. I know that’s not his fault but I was so upset. we spoke on the phone for a couple hours. I then asked if we could do something Sunday and he said no bc it’s a bit rushed. He’s definitely interested, he makes that very clear in person. But I am currently struggling with him not really organising to do anything, it always seems to be me. And then my fight or flight starts acting up and I panic and organise something. I know it’s because I want an element of control in a situation where there is no control to be had. I just really like him and I miss him. And tonight I’m really struggling with the whole dating and taking things slow. I know he feels the same too he just doesn’t voice it.
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