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lufalufa95
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The tables turned against me
Relationship Stress / by lufalufa95
Last post
 June 3rd, 2020
...See more I've been manipulated for monthes and it destroyed my sanity. I've send on my social media because I needed to vent "I'm hurt because my best friend still remains friend with someone who deeply damaged me" and explained to some they treated me like a clown saying nothing more. Maybe it was stupid I recognize it, but I was fully aware of what I posted I have nothing to hide. Then a few days after, my abuser came on my page with a new account to interact under this post. It triggered me, why do they invade my privacy while I blocked them on every platform, we have no followers in common so they stalked on purpose. They replied with words that makes them looks like the poor victim and nice one who tried to understand me while I look like the heartless crazy and abusive one, but it's not how it is. More infos, monthes before they sent me from an anonymous account dms on my instagram (I finally had proofs it was them) and also asked my best friend they wanted me to unblock them because they have something important to tell me. They are intrusive and they don't understand I don't want them to try to keep a contact. After that, I think my best friend heard about this post she acted different with me (to make it clear I already told her weeks ago that their friendship made me sad even if I don't have to control them) so I wanted to fix this, they said ok let's talk tomorrow. They didn't come back to me. I think my best friend is not on my side... I'm broken
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My best friend still talks to someone who deeply hurt me
Relationship Stress / by lufalufa95
Last post
 May 25th, 2020
...See more Part 2 So I've been played and it had a huge impact on my mental health. At the same moment, this person get close to my best friend, so I was afraid to talk about it for many reasons: will my best friend think I'm just gossiping because I'm jealous? I can't tell her not to hang out with them it's like controlling her even if they are a toxic person etc. So I suffered and stayed quiet for monthes. When I finally cut the toxic person I explained everything to my best friend, but her reaction was a bit disappointing. Telling me after being abused that "it's my fault for letting them hurt me", "I knew you didn't feel ok because of them", "I will not comfort you" is a bit rude... Maybe it's my fault because I hid it? I know I'm dumb but nowadays I'm still in touch with my best friend because I love and care a lot about her, even if she didn't show a lot of support. And to be honest I'm dependant, when I was feeling bad, her presence helped me a lot to calm my anxiety. But now it hurts too much seeing she still remains friend with this person being fully aware of what they've done and how destroyed I am, it triggers me when she uses her expressions, I am imagining being replaced... What she is doing is like invalidating what I went through. I don't know what to do... I know it's better for me to cut with her but I can't now... I wanna make her realise that I can't heal like this, should I explain my feelings or it is risky?
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Is this abuse or am I too sensitive?
Relationship Stress / by lufalufa95
Last post
 May 24th, 2020
...See more One of my closest friends treated me like I was nothing. Ignoring me for days on purpose while she was active on social media or even talking with my best friend. Didn't replying when I shared my good news but noticing me the quickest if she needed me to promote her. Said she will call and she never, even told me that I was forgetting her? I asked her many times if she had a problem with me, she was always denying saying it was because of work, I apologized even if I knew she was lying. I started to find new friends on twitter, she came too and acted like she supported me a lot, including herself too much in my conversation with people on public but still avoiding me in private. I stopped to run after her but she felt it and used nice words and said she was not feeling great those days so I stayed because I didn't want to hurt her by leaving her even if she broke my self esteem. After a few monthes I said I didn't want to be friend anymore saying politely the reasons, her attitude totally changed, she was attacking and flooding me saying I invented everything, played victim and tried to make me feel guilty. I don't know if this is abuse because she was not controlling like other toxic friendships but she really broke me with gaslighting, ghosting, faking being nice, mind games to make me feel crazy etc. Because of this, today I have anxiety attacks, i lost weight, can stay in bed for days, my mom cries a lot because she is afraid... There is an other part
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