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myrab
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Feel like I'm ruining lives?
Anxiety Support / by myrab
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 March 13th, 2020
...See more So a few months ago, my ex-boyfriend's dad passed away. It was a long distance relationship, and I didn't really know how to deal with it except by checking in and making sure he was okay, while also providing space. We ended up breaking up, which is fine, but I can't stop thinking that I didn't handle it correctly and made an extremely difficult time in his life harder by not giving enough space? We stopped talking, which is fine because I want him to focus on himself. I also have other relationships that ended, and then I spent years afterward second-guessing everything I said and all the mistake I've made and how I've hurt them. Did I ruin their lives? I have noticed that I tend to misremember details and I change things in my head, which makes me feel worse because I only remember the bad things I did. How do I either accept that I hurt people and apologize and move on, or realize that I'm not the giant villain that ruined these people's lives? Based on other friends and the conversations I had with them, everyone seems to be doing well. But how do I stop overthinking and move on from the past?
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