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Not sure if I even WANT a relationship?
Relationship Stress / by neonSquare8081
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 October 6th, 2021
...See more There was a long period of time where I was OBSESSED by the idea of being in a long term relationship. It seemed like something I really, desperately wanted even though I had next to no dating experience. I’ve dated a bit on and off in the last few years, never longer than a few months with one person, and have been dating someone for a few weeks now. He is getting very invested already, always asking to see me, saying all the right things, extremely respectful of me and my time… and I’m just… 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don’t know. I was excited to see him the first few dates and it’s not like anything has happened to specifically turn me off. There aren’t any major red flags. But I just can’t seem to get myself to want to spend any time with him and I’m kind of at the point where I’m wondering if it’s not about him/any guy in particular at all but just about me. I’ve always been happy being single and I’m pretty introverted (but also a teacher so I really max out my social interaction quota at work) and like to be alone. There are times when I think about being in a relationship and it sounds great but then o get myself in a position to actually make it a reality and suddenly feel like I don’t even want it after all. Has anyone else dealt with this? I don’t know how to determine if I should give it up now before he gets too invested or stick it out and see if my feelings grow because he IS really great, and I’m also demisexual so it can take some time for me to know.
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