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oliveOrange4335
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Recent Breakup (Break?) Advice/Support Please
Relationship Stress / by oliveOrange4335
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 May 21st, 2023
...See more Basically, my partner of a year and a half asked for a break and when i asked about boundaries and guidelines she basically said anything goes and there's no time cap because you can't put a timeline to self-growth. Their reasoning for why they felt the relationship wasn't right anymore was because they felt stuck. They said i wasn't respecting their boundaries about the privacy of our relationship and how they didn't like pda. Which i understand for pda but honestly there was no closeness anymore because they were basically asking me to pretend that we weren't together in public and group settings. At the beginning of the relationship there were was no discomfort surrounding any pda or the status of our relationship to other people. Everything they were asking for in regards to the privacy of our relationship was basically asking me to keep it a secret. As for communicating issues, they always expected me to initiate every single conversation. They expected me to read their mind and always say whats wrong or are you ok. Even then, they would always end up saying i dont want to talk about it. None of our issues were ever resolved. If I was sharing my feelings they would find a way to blame me for how I feel and not take any accountability. Also they always said that they were in it for the long haul and keep leading me to believe that this was true and never really wanted to let me know until after the fact that they had changed their mind. After asking for the break, we spoke and she basically told me that the lifestyle she wanted to live would not be fair to me. She wanted to be able to make decisions without worrying about how they would affect me. I want to move forward but I really did pour my heart and soul into this person hoping that they would appreciate it or at least care even a little bit. I'm here feeling the depths of pain that they have caused me and they are fine and dandy. "Living their best life" posting a lot on social media. I also have to note that it's extra hard because we live together and need to finish out the lease. I feel tortured. I want to just move forward with my life without thinking about this person 24/7. Seeing this is a constant reminder of how easily their threw the relationship away because they couldn't communicate and did not put any effort into resolving any issues. It feels like a breakup but everytime i asked if it was a breakup they would say break. It just doesn't make any sense. I hope I'm not crazy.
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