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Emotionally abused ex left me...help
Trauma Support / by patientPear3978
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 July 16th, 2021
...See more Does anyone else flip-flop between being hurt from the realisation that your ex emotionally abused to getting mad at yourself thinking that you're overexaggerating? Even though you're physically and mentally struggling way more than any other break up? I'm struggling coming to terms with it. I've had 2 therapists tell me I was emotionally abused. I can acknowledge that he was gaslighting me, but can't accept it was on purpose most of the time etc... Also, I can only find things online about the abuser being left, not being the one to break up with the other person. I was so miserable but was so addicted to the cycle of wanting to be there for him and try to prove that I'm enough. I would never have left him because I excused his behaviour as symptoms of anxiety and weird way of showing he cares... Also he moved on publicly within 3 days of breaking up, a day before I came out of hospital.... i have blocked him but cant stop looking from time to time. I'm struggling so hard and I'm just curious how anyone else had gotten over it. I always thought I'd be the one to leave because I tried to do everything and be everything for him while he offered EXTREMELY little and I loved him irregardless.
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