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patientTurtle8460
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PathStep 27 Compassion hearts73 Forum posts9 Forum upvotes2 Current upvotes2 Age GroupAdult Last activeApril, 2021 Member sinceJanuary 26, 2021
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Hi I’m Moon (nickname). I used to be a listener on here - I have a BSc Psychology degree and a MSc Stress and Medical health degree. But I have found myself needing to seek help as I have has a rough past and present myself. I hoping to heal so that I feel able to help others again 🤍

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I don’t know what to do...
Relationship Stress / by patientTurtle8460
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 February 10th, 2021
...See more Hi I’m 25 and have been on and off with my partner for 10 years now. We used to live together but he switched his degree completely mid way/near the end and had been living 3hrs away for the last 3yrs and so we were doing long distance - until Covid obvs, now it’s like just talking on the phone but barely because he refuses to call now & barely messages (I have confronted him about this numerous of times & feel unheard or uncared for). In fact, 6 months before Covid was even a thing, he stopped doing things like sleeping next to me during visits (like would leave me in the hotel after sex) and he never ever did this before in all the years I known him. I spoke abt how this hurt me and he just kept promising it was coz of a one off emergency but did it literally a whole year. I suspected he is cheating or got like a girl pregnant and in a weird situation - but he refuses to tell me what’s up & refuses to break up with me. If I try leave or block he just contacts through another number or means and because I love him and want it to work so bad because I put everything financially, emotionally and mentally into us I don’t know what to do. Like I have confronted him about all this nicely & harsh toned but I get no explanations for his odd behaviour and feel trapped & lonely. I don’t know if he’s lying or telling the truth. He’s now doing things like staying online til 4am but still not really talking to me... yet won’t accept me leaving him so I just don’t get what’s going on. I have tried figuring it out in person and from a distance and just don’t know what to do now...
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What would u do in my shoes?
Relationship Stress / by patientTurtle8460
Last post
 February 28th, 2021
...See more Hi I’m 25 and have been on & off with my partner for nearly 10years now. We used to live togther but he switched his degree mid way and moved 3hrs away & is now stuck there coz of Covid. 6months before Covid was a thing, he stopped doing stuff like sleeping next to me on visits & never did this before - last year he continued this but kept promising he wouldn’t (he literally would make an excuse & up & leave me in hotel rooms). He then stopped messaging me good morning & goodnight but I can see he’s online til like 4am in the morning and he never used to be like that. I have confronted him countless of times in kind & harsh tones, but none get me answers. I try to leave him but then he literally will bug me & promise me nothing weird is going on - then he repeats the weird behaviour literally straight away. I love him to death still and it’s easy for me to walk away but not when he approaches me (I block him sometimes and he just contacts from a diff number & things like that so have stopped bothering). I don’t know what to do because I want it to work & I gave him everything I had financially, emotionally & everything & obvs love him too - But I can’t trust. And I keep telling him that but he refuses to be clear with me & also refuses to let me go so I’m just stuck...
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