What would u do in my shoes?
Hi I’m 25 and have been on & off with my partner for nearly 10years now. We used to live togther but he switched his degree mid way and moved 3hrs away & is now stuck there coz of Covid. 6months before Covid was a thing, he stopped doing stuff like sleeping next to me on visits & never did this before - last year he continued this but kept promising he wouldn’t (he literally would make an excuse & up & leave me in hotel rooms). He then stopped messaging me good morning & goodnight but I can see he’s online til like 4am in the morning and he never used to be like that. I have confronted him countless of times in kind & harsh tones, but none get me answers. I try to leave him but then he literally will bug me & promise me nothing weird is going on - then he repeats the weird behaviour literally straight away. I love him to death still and it’s easy for me to walk away but not when he approaches me (I block him sometimes and he just contacts from a diff number & things like that so have stopped bothering). I don’t know what to do because I want it to work & I gave him everything I had financially, emotionally & everything & obvs love him too - But I can’t trust. And I keep telling him that but he refuses to be clear with me & also refuses to let me go so I’m just stuck...
Hey girl. It sounds like the two of you could use some time away from each other to figure things out. I mean TIME away. I know the situation sucks and its painful and nobody should put another human being through uncertainty. The weird behavior he is portraying is not of one who values his girlfriend. You love him (to life) and he needs to figure out his true feelings as well. Time heals and time will tell what his real intentions are and where the 2 of u stand in this relationship. Dont think of the possibility of cheating even though its what it sounds like. It will only eat u up inside. Try to take time yo focus on the things you love to do on your own (without him) Remember we as humans dont NEED another person in order to be happy...sometimes we forget what that is because we are constantly worrying about our issues and our neediness. U need U right now to breathe and think clearly. Then every answer u need will come to u naturally. Best Wishes ❤
Thank you, this is the most sound advice I have heard so far. And yes what you said is true & is what I have been doing ironically. So thank you for the reassurance also ❤️
HE refuses to let you go? Why can’t YOU get up and leave HIM ? You do NOT need his permission!!!
I meant it in the meaning of: he will do anything in his power to contact or turn up or something. I have a pretty hectic life outside the relationship, so I wouldn’t go as far as getting legal restraints & all that headache done - but I get what u mean, like I am clearly letting myself cave in. But I guess it’s because, like I said, I love him a lot & have loved him for so long - also I put 10 hard years of my heart & soul into the relationship, so a big part of me hopes it will work out to be honest.