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philosophicalBirch7391
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I love my boyfriend who has BPD and I willing to do whatever it takes to take care of him
Personality Disorders Support / by philosophicalBirch7391
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 December 9th, 2018
...See more After one of my boyfriend's explosive insults and accusations, my boyfriend decided I've changed and he has no use of me. I believe what he says doesn't really bare any meaning and he doesn't want me to go. Before I met him I was severely depressed and suicidal until he came and gave me hope. He took care of me and made me want to live again. I want to do the same for him. I want to take care of him no matter how hard it gets because I love him so much. I understand I have to put in a lot of work on my part to make this relationship work. But recently he said a lot of hurtful things I can't shake off and I want to understand him better. How do I approach my boyfriend to ask about why he feels that way and why he said those things. I'm afraid that if i don't approach this right he might feel like he's being attacked and become defensive which can result in his hostility. I understand that's because of his illness and not who he really is at his core. I want to know because if I can understand why he said that I can rationalise my feelings to not take them personallly.
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